Is internet dateing right for me?

[Arashi19]

Hey everyone, just wanted to ask a question. I've been single my whole life (19 now) and have yet to have sex (duh). Sadly, though, my prospects for getting a girl-friend are virtually zero. Try as I might, they either only see me as a friend, or already have boyfriends.

So I was wondering: should I try online dateing? And if so, what sites should I use? Obviiously I would like to have sex, but I would be willing to wait a small amount of time before. Should I go with something like eHarmony? Or would AdultFriendFinder be ok?

Thanks for the help!

P.S: How much do these sites cost on average? is free memebership worth it? full?

[Xero]

I have no clue about the sites mentioned above, but your not the only 19 year old who hasn't had sex.

I'm currently 19 male still a virgin. Didn't get a girlfriend until last November when I was 18.

There are also +20year olds who haven't ever had a girlfriend.

There is someone out there, just keep looking would be my best advice.

[YourEternalRest]

Originally Posted by Xero

There are also +20year olds who haven't ever had a girlfriend.

*Raises hand*

Originally Posted by Xero

There is someone out there, just keep looking would be my best advice.

One thing I heard from a girl I used to know (she's in a relationship) said the opposite. In her experience, she wasn't able to get a bf when she was looking but rather they came along when she actually wasn't looking. This may be something that's different from person to person but I thought I'd throw that out there just to mention the other side of the coin.

As for the online dating thing, I'm just going to say what I've heard from various people, including Dan and Jenn. If you're serious about it, be prepared to spend some money. You're certainly not going to the full info from the members on the dating sites by signing up as a free member. I can't tell you what the success rates are for people who have met online but it seems to be getting more and more common for people to meet each other online these days.

[Xero]

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

In her experience, she wasn't able to get a bf when she was looking but rather they came along when she actually wasn't looking.

I'll give you credit on this one, it works both ways. Sometimes you can find them when you are looking. Sometimes when your not looking something just smacks you in the face from no where.

I think the reason for this is if you are trying too hard you miss what is there. When you are relaxed you can see everything that is in front of you, but too lazy and love passes you up. When you are in the middle you are in the mode to go after it instead of sitting on the side lines, and your not looking too hard to find it.

When you try too hard you are pushing your standards to the limits. No one is perfect, you just gotta give some people leeway here and there. Their imperfections make them who they are, and the good usually weighs out the bad. Plus their unique especially to you, when you find that out its awesome.

[Arashi19]

Thanks guys. Maybe I am rushing this. A slew of friends are "moveing up" and I guess I just got caught up. Thanks for the advice. Guess I should just slow down and take it easy. Maybe I'll get lucky.

Thanks again everyone!