Please Help!!!

[CountryBoy_2288]

Hi my name is dustin and i am in the army and i am stationed in korea. I met my fiance in 1st grade and we started dateing in the 3rd grade till the 6h grade when we both moved away, we did not keep in contact or anything. I had always longed to find her because she was my first love and i knew that if i found her that my life would finally be complete. neither of us have kids or have ever been married before. Shortly after i arrived in korea i got my army bouns so i bought a laptop and i got internet. I had still been thinkin about katie so i began my search. i searched everywhere and i finally found her one morning on myspace. I messeged her and we started talking and she said that she had longed to find me too so shortly after that we started dateing and shortly after that (a few weeks) i asked her if she would marry me and she said yes. We manage the time differance pretty well. For the first 2 or 3 weeks it was so great we were always talkin and learnin about each other all over again and we have alot in common. well lately our relationship has gone down hill and its so borein when we talk. I trust katie completely and i know she would never hurt me but she has started hangin out with this guy and i told her it is ok cause i completely trust her and she has alot of guy friends but some how i feel like im loseing her to this guy and i know its cause our relationship is boreing now . I want to keep her interested and i want to keep our relationship good and fresh but i dont know how .. i dont know how to keep it from bein borein i feel like im the one to blame me but she assures me that its her. I dont get to take leave untill april 2010 and thats 6 months away . i am so scared to lose her because she is my one and only and the one who i have been in love with since 1st grade. i have no idea how to keep things interesting or how to fix our boreing relationship. i have tryed to have webcam sex with her but she only watches me and doesnt seem interested and she tells me she doesnt like touchin herself because she was in a bad relationship b4 me and he made her have sex. so i stoped that because i want her to be totally comfortable with me . but everything i try to do to fix it i feel like i just push her farther away.. I just cant lose the love of my life. please help . Dustin Hensley p.s. if this isnt enought info i would be more than happy to instant message one of you and give more details. countryboy_2288
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[karasus]

Sounds like you are being slightly insecure. Insecurities destory long distance relationships. My ex and I were in a LDRS and she felt insecure about me in college, she was scared of invisible competition from drunk "college chicks". The week I didn't come online because of exams, she freaked out and litterally harrassed me/scream/cried at me, then she broke up with me. You probably are not at that stage yet, and you can still avoid it by doing one simple thing. Let her live her life, stop trying so hard to talk everyday. If you talk all the time, every time, there is no excitement since you are not doing anything except sitting in front of the computer. Go do something fun, come back and share it with her. It will be something new and refreshing, should make her more interested.

[Xero]

I think the only problem you two are having is that you are not able to see each other. This is what is causing you two to break apart.

Don't lie to each other about this, its both of your faults due to the circumstances that are imposed on this relationship. So really neither of you are at fault its just how the relationship has to be currently.

I would suggest talking to her about how its really neither of your faults and you need to find something really fun to talk about online or find new things to do until you get to see her.

To me there arn't really many options, but this is the best I can do for now. Someone else might have a better idea.