signing up for porn sites addiction

[chesney_01]

I have over come my jealousy when it comes to my live in boyfriend looking at porn. It still hurts me to see him doing it, but I'm gradually getting over it. I have even resulted to buying dvd's for us to watch together and asking him about what he got off to so that we can get off to it together. This works, he loves watching and talking about it with me. However, I do insist on a two things if my boyfriend is going to look at porn: he doesn't save or download any pictures to our computer and that he only looks at free porn that doesn't require a username and password. This last topic is very important to me. He once made a new email in order to hide his porn accounts from me but I soon found out about it. I have threatened our relationship numerous times because I feel that if he has an account, then he is trying to hide something from me. I'm not sure that I can fully trust him, he's done things in the past that could be considered cheating like asking a female friend for a pic of her boobs in a text. He has told me that he will stop signing up time after time again only to sign up again a month later. What can I do? I can't take this anymore but I also love him more than anything. Signing up for sites when there is plenty of free porn is overdoing it...

[Beagle]

Any human behavior can be taken to an unhealthy extreme. When a person is unable to stop a behavior that is causing him problems, then it is called a compulsion. I'm not optimistic about him being able to stop this without some form of outside help in the form of a therapist. Saying "I won't do it again" is a pie-crust promise -"Easily made and easily broken."

A lot of people see getting professional help as a drastic step. However, that's what it's going to take here. If he isn't willing to take that step, then you have a choice to make. Accept that he has this problem, or end the relationship. Before you proceed to marriage and/or children, ask yourself "Am I willing to deal with this for the rest of my life?"