Can sex even though it was making love make you appreciate your lover less?

[damaris]

My boyfriend broke up with me about 6 days ago because he thought he didn't love me. We didn't talk for most of those 6 days but we still did because we are also best friends. We have made love but not always (is that bad?) and during our relationship, which would have been a year in like 2 days, we had sex quite a lot. Yesterday, he came over and we were talking and he said he had to be completely honest and he said that at that moment he was thinking about sex. Could it be just because we were sitting on my bed? Or did our relationship become to much about? He said he was not horny at all, he did not want sex and that is not why he had come over but he couldn't help thinking about. I did not get back with him because I can't trust him right now that he really does love me because he is so confused about how he feels. We talked about what we should do if we do get back together to fix our relationship. And we couldn't think of any way to stop us from having sex besides staying away from each other, thats what he decided to do to appreciate me more, not have sex as much as we used. I don't think having sex is bad, i believe it a major part of relationship, it's making love but he thinks it made him appreciate me less. Could that be true or could it be something else?

[Xero]

You are right.

Sex is what ruined the relationship. If you ask me it probably came too early in the relationship stage. I'm not saying sex is wrong either.

What you two need to do if you get back together is put sex back for a month or so. Learn what makes you really tick for the other person. What is his interests and such. There is more than sex to a relationship, and I think that's why you guys are having such a problem. If you build your relationship on other things, then take it to sex later you will have a more long lasting and meaningful relationship because it is with someone you deeply care about.