Long distance relationship with a depress man

[LaurenR]

OK. MUST BE A FATE THING THAT I FOUND THIS SITE, SO THIS IS MY QUESTION:

We meet online I already know your idea about internet relationship (I saw a You tube video), but well we already meet each other and I guess this change the situation a lil bit right? , well he is a good man but I guess his relationship past mark him so much that now seems is a problem for our current relationship, he is twice divorced guy (both times cheated, and he said they become controlers and you know Bit****) So i guess he lost the faith and confidence in women.

We already meet each other from more than 1 year but sometimes his mood make me have doubts about us, he told me he loves me, and actually just coming to see me is a demostration that he does (he is in US and i am in South America) but i dont know he is a depress guy, is sad most of the time, and there is nothing i can make to make him change his mood I know that by a webcam is very hard...So my question in this point is do i have to have patience or you think he is never going to change (he is under depression medication), we talk about me going there but after 5 times i tried to get the visa seems that the only answer is get a fiance visa, sometimes he seems to be happy with the idea someothers he is just totally against that...he hardly talk to me ... I dont mind about going to US (i am not following a green card, i am bussiness person here in my country, kinda successfull) but his idea of commitment with me is not strong... he is still afraid of our future, he thinks I will be another fail in his life .. any advice of how make him trust more in me?

Thank you

Laura

[that girl]

you seem to have done so much and put in so much effort for him ... i comend you for that.
Keep talking to him, constantly remind him of how you feel about him - he is most likely scared .. dont make things go to quick, take it easy and let things happen.
I think he does love you - but he is afraid of losing you ...
i hope it works out or you at least figure out what you want from it all
lots of love,
that girl xoxo