Are all men unsure of mariage or is it just mine???

[Raylene]

I have been with my fiance for almost 11 years. We are suppose to be getting married this September. The problem I have is he is not sure if he wants to get married. He says he loves me but marriage scares him. He doesn't like to talk or hear about the wedding plans. I am so confused. Is this normal for a guy to feel so scared or unsure about this or is he just unsure about me? Please help me understand because he's not doing a good job.

[Exavion]

Well, it personally makes sense to me. Ya, I am a male. I don't know. To be honest, marriage never seemed to interest me. What is the point? If I like someone, or even love someone, I will stay and be with them. Why spend money on a ceremony, and legally give half of everything you own to her if and when you lose the connection?

Again, it doesn't make much sense to me. I am but one guy though, so I'm not sure. Maybe he doesn't want to for different reasons entirely.

[K. in Cleveland]

I love my guy very much and would love to enjoy the rest of my life with him... but even though we are saying we're engaged now.. I don't really care about getting the legal papers done personally. He wants to though, so I told him I will, just not any time within the next 2 years. I've only been with him for 4 years, you guys have been together 11 years. That shows there must be commitment.. maybe he just doesn't like the whole finality of the idea of marriage and is just happy to leave things as they are. I wish common law marriages were common these days.. then you don't have to worry about it after a while..lol

I'd say if you really really want to get legally married, ask him why he has not wanted to do it. But if your lives are good as they are, why push the marriage?

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear.. I do tend to feel and think differently (sometimes at the same time.. hmm..) than some people. I think he loves you otherwise he wouldn't have been with you this far.

[Rich in Love]

You are making it too easy for him to not marry you, Tell him you are going to set a date and he needs to get involved, if he cant, kick him to the curb.