long distance relationships

[Kat in NJ]

How do you make long distance relationships work? Both my partner and I agreed to a long distance relationship and we both want to make it work, but for the next year at least, we'll mostly be separated, because he is in college, and I am an senior in high school. We'll be 700 miles away from each other, and will only see each other around Christmas-time once or twice. He doesn't plan to come back for summers. He's in Ohio, and I'm in New Jersey.

Depending on the circumstances, we might be separated for another 4 years, as I might not go to the same university as him. We will both be incredibly busy with schoolwork, but I have problems dealing with my loneliness, and he asks that I understand that at times, we may go 2-3 weeks without any contact at all.

I am a very physical person, and I am afraid that such a relationship will die off. I don't want to give him an ultimatum - give me your time or let me go, because I understand that with the future job that he wants, he will have to invest most of his waking hours to succeed. However, because I get lonely so much, I tend to become crabby and irritable, and so the time that i do have with him (phone time) sometimes doesn't go well. I love him very much and I really want to make it work. How do I deal with my loneliness?

[yumianhuli]

make yourself successful too, by devoting more time on meaningful things. Make several great friends, relationship isn't all. Did you watch Sex and the City? Friendship is much more important than what most women think.