Rebound Relationships

[Rebound Girl]

I have been dating a guy for a month now. We connected right away from the start and talked for hours. He had just gotten out of a 2 ½ year relationship a month before we met. He was just out with his friend and didn’t expect to meet someone. I asked what happened and he said that she needed space. She told him that “She tells him she wants apples, but he brings her pears” He said that confused him, as he thought they were happy and doing fine. I told him that he obviously still had feelings for her and should try and work it out. He said they were still talking, but now he wasn’t sure what he wanted or what was going to happen. I wasn’t ready for anything serious at the time, thought I could handle it, so I told him that we can hang out and just take it slow… Surprising to me, as I don’t fall for guys easily, I’m finding that the more time I spent with him, the more I like him. He seems to feel the same way about me, but he's still confused. I’m not cut out to be anyone’s rebound girl! I’m starting to get impatient, and feeling like I’m his possible 2nd choice or the other woman. MY QUESTION: Should I tell him how I feel and (if so what do I say) OR should I just move on?

Thank you!

Rebound Girl

[Melody Brooke]

Number one: Are you having fun? If you are, and it sounds like you are, you have a choice to make. Is the current situation more fun than it is painful? Your guy needs time. You can give it to him byo just keep enjoying his company and giving him time to discover if you are his soul mate while you are together.

But if this is too painful for you to do, then do what you need to do for yourself. If you value yourself, you wont hang around if it is too painful. Is this relationship causing you more pain than it is pleasure? If so, you can't stay if you value yourself. Tell him that and move on. If he's that great a guy, well, he'll understand.Then, if your the one for him, he'll figure it out - eventually.

Either way, you are making a choice and are no longer at the effect of whatever he does. Being stuck in a powerless position feels horrible. The "Victim" place of not having choices never ends well. Decide what you want, based on what YOU need.

He'll respect you more in the end, and you'll feel MUCH better about yourself.

[fawkse]

i aggree with melody. it would best if you could give your feelings and needs an honest assestment. it's hard to be selfish at times, but you know the whole truth here with where his feelings are confused.
maybe it would be best to take some time away from him too. yes, i know that's what his ex wanted, but actually time away for you would help both you and him see where you both stand in each others life.
sometimes, us women see a man that is so 'perfect' in our eyes. we learn that he is hurt and somewhat emotionally unavailable. our motherly instinct kicks in, and we think we can nurture them back to health.
sometimes us women love the game of trying to win the guys heart when another woman is involved. we like to compete too...
time isn't your enemy. taking things slow will benefit you both. this will give him time to heal, and it will give you time to develope his trust by being his loyal friend and not some needy, clingy, demanding woman.
good luck