Confused, what do I do?

[melodyengg]

Hi,
I actually have a few questions. I'm currently single and live with 3 other roommates who all have boyfriends. They all tell me that I need a boyfriend but I don't know how to really get out there. BUT, I do have these feelings for one of my close guy friends. I feel like there could possibly be something more, but I'm not sure.

My friend and I have been out a few times, he pays for our meals when we go out and refuses to let me pay, but our conversations tend to die and we have awkward silences, but online, we talk a lot. He always asks when we're going to hang out again, but I'm afraid to go out because conversations die. I try to carry them out, but sometimes it's hard to get response out of him.

One time I spent the night and both of us were up all night, and I'm assuming because we were both nervous? I've talked to him about it, and when I asked him if he liked me more than just a friend, he said he didn't, but then he asked me about me, and I told him that I would date him and he paused for a second and didn't give me a direct answer. So i still feel that there is there is still some sort of tension there. Does that make any sense?

I really like him and I want to be more than just friends with him, but is he worth it or should I move on?

[fawkse]

take time and tell him how you feel about extending your relationship. it sounds like this guy may be mulling things over in his head.
please don't rush inot dating just becuase your roommates insist on it. you can do a lot of damage to your self esteem by living up to their expectations.
if you are simply happy being single, and seeking this relationship with your current intrest, just keep working at it. the best relationships start out as friends. once you have that level of trust, moving forward is easier than just dating some guy and expecting him to have that level of trust installed.
good luck

[melodyengg]

thanks fawksee,

and don't worry about the whole rushing into a relationship just because my roommates have insisted upon it, i admit it can get tiring, even though i have told them multiple times that i am perfectly fine being single. I've experienced what pressure does to a relationship, and i vowed never to get into one simply because. your advice is something i have considered, but i don't know how to bring it up casually without making it a big deal. any suggestions?

[fawkse]

brutal honest truth...
you both are friends so you both are comfortable talking together. just take a time and tell him. make sure you let him know that you honor his friendship first and formost. tell him that your feelings are deeper, and you need for him to know.
make sure you are ready for rejection too. he may need more time to think, but don't give up. his friendship with you may be a little awkward for a while, but in the end, true friendship gets past much more than this.
i'm not unsure how you should approach him... in person, phone, or email...
you probably already know which would be best.
he will respect your honesty and boldness for getting this out and in the open. there is nothing worse than not being truthful to yourself and your best friends...
good luck girlie... let me know how it goes!