What should I do?

[Josh in Australia]

I'm gay and have been seeing this guy for about a year, we have had sex, go on dates and see each of allot, but we are not officially going out, and have the understanding that we can see other people if we wish. I don't want to see other people and I have said to him that he is the only person I'm interested in, but he said that he is not reedy to commit to a relationship like, he said he is a in the moment kind of person and can't give me 100% of himself and if he can't give 100% he feels we can't go out. The thing is we do every thing couples do we both say we love each other, we both say that we will be there for each other and we are very close. What I don't know is should I just wait it out and hope he will commit or should I say that we need to be just friends and save myself the heart ache of him being with someone else?

[fawkse]

maybe the best thing for you to do is play the field as well. i'm not saying go out and date the first person available, but start opening your eyes to other great guys out there.
i know you have deeply rooted feelings for your current love, but if he isn't ready to take the committment you want you can't make him.
maybe if you start having a little 'fan club' lol, he may start realizing that he wants you for himself.
if you both are meant for eachother, it will be. just remember that great relationships take time and effort. they don't happen over night sort to speak.
good luck and best wishes to ya!