I had sex with a girl at 11 , did i lose it to her ?

[xbabyvainx]

Hi , I'm 16 , Ive had sex with a guy before . But before then once at my cousins sleepover , me and a girl made out , and carried out oral sex on each other , we didn't finger each other though , but we done a lot of stuff , nothing was inserted anywhere . And I can't really say it was just innocent fun , cause we were both really horny at the time , i just want to know if that counts as losing my virginity ?

Thanks , and please don't leave any mean comments . To be honest i wouldn't believe it myself but it did happen . At the time i was 11 going on 12 , and she recently turned 12 .

[Xero]

If you constitute it as losing your virginity.

The definition is not clearly defined. Some people saying having anal or oral not losing your virginity. Some say it does. To me it does because it's 'Oral Sex".

So from my point of view it is sex and yes you did lose your virginity.

[YourEternalRest]

It all depends on how you define sex and virginity. Supposedly, the general definition of sex can include, but not limited to oral, anal, masturbation, etc. Now, intercourse on the other hand has to involve some type of penetration and usually it means penis going into a vagina of course. I learned this from a recent class I took so now I know how to differentiate.

In your case, unless you want to give the full details on what happened between you two, I really can't say you lost your virginity in that experience. It sounds to me like it was just limited to fondling and very light foreplay based on what you've described. Also, as 11-year olds (I'm not saying you're stupid at that age) you don't really know a whole lot, if anything about sex anyway.

[xbabyvainx]

Don't feel that comfortable telling the world , but first we were french kissing , and then mutual mastubation , and then lots of oral sex .

I was just wondering if that counts , to me a penis in the vag counts . But yunno ..


Thanks anyways

x

[Xero]

Originally Posted by Xero

The definition is not clearly defined. Some people saying having anal or oral not losing your virginity. Some say it does. To me it does because it's 'Oral Sex".

So from my point of view it is sex and yes you did lose your virginity.

It really depends what you consider it to be. My view is right there and other people would disagree.

[YourEternalRest]

Originally Posted by xbabyvainx

Don't feel that comfortable telling the world , but first we were french kissing , and then mutual mastubation , and then lots of oral sex .

No one knows or cares who you really are on this board. It's called anonymity. The only thing we know about you is what you tell us. Also, if you ever want the best help anyone can give you around here it's better to give more details rather than not enough.

Anyways, I still don't consider that to be losing your virginity. I guess my reason for saying that is because there was no penetration involved.

[Jo_]

Well, I guess I think somewhat like Xero does!

You probably have your own point of view about this. For me, mutual masturbation and oral sex are ways of losing virginity. I can't really explain it, so it may sound a little confusing but to me virginity means that nobody ever gave you pleasure, whether it's through masturbation, anal, oral, fingering... To me, if you've done anything of this or if someone else gave you any kind of sexual pleasure, than you're not a virgin!

But it now depends on you! You're the one who's gotta know if you lost your virginity or not!

[underwoman101]

i totally think that counts you were horny and that was the best you could get at the time . im twelve right now and ive been where you are ive wondered if it was really loosing my virginity and i thought about it and for me it was but it could have a different meaning for you but dont hang on to thpose kind of things just tell yourself its in the past or i had a great time.