unprotected sex - just wondering what were the chances she could have gotten pregnant?

[jrj746]

hey....ummm....okay..
so me and my girlfriend have been sexually active for about a year now and umm...we have protected sex and unprotected sex....we're not having anymore sex till she's on the pill(which will be in about a week) but i just wanted to know...

How were our chances?

whenever we had unprotected sex it was always either during her period or up to a week afterward (no more than a week though)...i would usually ejaculate while inside of her....even though it seemed to work every time...seeing as how its been year and she never got pregnant...i just wanna know...what were the chances that she could have gotten pregnant?

[Sin Secret]

Actually, your chances were pretty high. For one, having sex right after her period is actually more risky than doing it before. You'd think it'd be the other way around, right?
Anyway. It's great that nothing went wrong, and really your chances weren't too bad, considering you did try to keep the unprotected sex during her period. But I have a friend who went years having unprotected sex with her boyfriend and never had anything go wrong.
Life's just screwed up like that. You're lucky

When she starts the pill, don't forget to make sure she takes it at the EXACT SAME TIME EVERY DAY. It's really important, especially if you plan on having unprotected sex while she's on the pill. Same time. Every day. No fail. Don't forget. ^-^

[jrj746]

thanks a lot....
by the way...umm...i though that it'd still be okay if it was maybe just an hour or two off...i dont think u have to take the pill at the EXACT same time everyday...

[Sin Secret]

Originally Posted by jrj746

thanks a lot....
by the way...umm...i though that it'd still be okay if it was maybe just an hour or two off...i dont think u have to take the pill at the EXACT same time everyday...

No, that's what I thought at first too, but you definitely DO need to take it at the EXACT same time. There's about a 15 minute leeway, but that's it. If you are having, or plan to ever have, ANY unprotected sex, she has to take it at the exact same time.

It's how the pill works. It sends a message to the brain for exactly 24hours and 15minutes. If she doesn't take them at the same time, the message stops and there's a chance that she'll release an egg during the time in between, and even if she takes it at the right time the next day, she could still get pregnant because it was released.

It's okay if she forgets once or twice out of the month, but make sure she then takes it as soon as possible, and you DO NOT have unprotected sex for at least a week or so.

It's important. This is how the majority of women who get pregnant while on the pill get pregnant. Don't mess with it. Have her set her alarm on her cell phone or something for the same time every night or morning, so she'll never forget.

(Taking it at the same time also helps prevent side effects, but that's a little less relevant here.)

[jrj746]

Do you have to take "the pill" at the exact same time everyday?

Yes you should take it the exact time every day to keep up the dose so it prevents pregnancy accurately. A hour later wont effect the pill but try to stick to the exact time.

-wikianswers.com

.....a little more research might help u out secret

[brbrhej]

Well, you were really playing a risky game by having unprotected sex...and be aware that pill is also not 100% protection from pregnancy (they say it is 99%), besides once a woman starts taking them it takes one-two monts till they are fully protecting...
Good luck and take care of each other

[jrj746]

i always do take care of her...except the unprotected thing...but yeah i think its supposed to range from like 98.9 to like 99.8% effective..or sumthin like that...
but im always gunna be there for her even if she did get pregnant..which is a lot more than sum guys can say..but just to stay on the safe side im still gunna use condoms sumwhere between half the time and most of the time...i just love the way it feels without...

[Sin Secret]

Originally Posted by jrj746

Do you have to take "the pill" at the exact same time everyday?

Yes you should take it the exact time every day to keep up the dose so it prevents pregnancy accurately. A hour later wont effect the pill but try to stick to the exact time.

-wikianswers.com

.....a little more research might help u out secret

Actually, it does matter, an hour later could effect the pill. Its not guaranteed that it'll make something bad happen, but it ups the chances a LOT. Taking it at the exact same time keeps that 98-99% accuracy at its best. It's the science of how the pill works and what it does. It really is important.

I hope you don't go to WikiAnswers for all your sex questions...

[jrj746]

no i dont go to wiki for all sex questions...i do a lot of research on this stuff because im one of those rare "resonsible teens"....well except when it came to the unprotected sex thing...but i just like to be sure of myself so i looked it up....but my point is that an hour or two even isnt gunna kill the effect of the pill completely....plus like i said in an earlier message..im gunna be using condoms somewhere between half the time and most of the time..

[GeekyJenn]

Not to be a pain in the butt to you men but WHY do you guys always lay it on the women??? I could never remember to take my pill at the same time, and I think my guy should have been happy i remembered to take it almost every day :P I am on Nuvaring right now. But all in all, I don't take hormones for birth control reasons. I guess I don't think it is very fair to dump that on the woman and then if even if she happens to get pregnant even while on the pill, everything is HER fault and she trapped him and whatever he lays blame upon her for.

Anyways. You probably are lucky she didn't get pregnant unless you really don't mind the idea of kids. Remember, it does take two to tango, so it isn't like it's all her fault if she got pregnant.

sorry for the rant. The topic just pressed a button that rubs me the wrong way and some not good memories.