premature ejaculation problem

[sanandonna]

i am a 40 year old male that is married but i have problem with ejackulating to fast my wife has to masturbate in order to climax is any thing out there that works with out taking pills.

[Dan And Jennifer]

Hi Sanandonna, welcome!

There are definitely things you can do to alleviate premature male ejaculation, we'll get into that below.

First, watch this short video we did that talks about masturbation but also some of the reasons for premature ejaculation in adults. Much of it is societal and due to how our society deals with teen sexuality. Yep, many of our issues come from those early years.

Why Is Masturbation So Taboo?

As to what you can do about the pre ejaculation issue

The key is to train your mind and body to slow down and quell the excitement, enough to allow you and your partner to truly enjoy the experience fully.

This can be achieved through various techniques like practicing slow and controlled masturbation where you refrain from orgasming quickly and instead focus on being completely aware of the feelings and the excitement - essentially using your awareness to take control of the excitement so it doesn't take control of you; slowing down and changing positions during sex as you feel yourself reaching the "point of no return"; using controlled breathing and becoming completely aware of your levels of arousal so you can better control it.

This is not something that's going to change overnight, but in most cases it CAN change.

We're actually about to start publishing a series of articles and tips from a new featured author on this very topic, with exercises to help you reel in this issue. But this will be over the coming weeks, so I can't link to them here yet.

In the meantime, check out his orgasm and ejaculation control manual, which you can get here.

What I like about his approach is that he focuses on dealing with the physiological / behavioral issues and walks you through exercises you can actually follow - no unnecessary. I personally would stay away from pills, as there may well be natural non-invasive options to fix this without getting hooked on some pills you'll take your whole life. I was on blood pressure meds for a few years and they kept upping the dosage every year. Finally I took up meditation and chilled out some and got rid of all the pills, and have never felt better. To each his own, I just prefer natural unless there's no other choice.

Follow back up with us here and let us know what you do and how it's working for you - we want to know!

Dan