Please Help! How can I tell if it's really hurting her - and what can i do?

[eclipsewoa]

me and my wife have sex alot, and sometimes she acts a lil hesitant because i am fully erect, basically she says that i am too hard sometimes, but other times im the same way and she doesnt say anything.

so when we are having sex, she has a face like it hurts but she says it feels really good, how can i tell if it is really hurting her or not and what can i do, i mean the oral on both parts is great, but she really turns me on and i cant help to get very arosed, i really need someones help on this!!!!!!!!

[Emily in PA]

Well, sometimes it can be a little confusing, since often enough, women's "pleasure faces" look almost like they're in pain.

Just to make sure, speak with your partner at a time when you're not having sex. Express to her how important it is to you that she is happy and not in pain. Ask her to be completely honest with you about whenever she may be feeling uncomfortable during sex.

You sound like a great guy to be concerned about her like this. She should be glad to have you (especially after sharing your concerns with her)!

Hope this helped!

[eclipsewoa]

you helped alot, i always ask her if it hurts her and she tells me no, that it feels good, but at times i feel like she holds me so i cant completely enter her or she wont move towards me when i penetrate, i mean, is it common for a woman to not tell the truth about this because she doesnt want me to not enjoy it or is it just me, i mean i always tell her if she doesnt want it, then i dont want it, because nothing turns me on more than knowing my woman wants me and feels pleasured, and im talking about my soulmate here, we are soulmates so thats why these question i ask are important, and she says sometimes when im not fully erect that she really enjoys it but its not my fault that i get really hard, its hers, she shouldnt be so sexy, lol

[Emily in PA]

I think you're probably right. It might not be pain, but just an uncomfortable feeling. Sometimes women don't talk about what makes them feel good because they don't think it's important.

If it IS true that she's feeling uncomfortable, try some different positions. Woman-on-top would be great, since she would be controlling how much of you she takes in at a time.

Just talk it out during a non-sexual time. You guys sound like a great match, so it shouldn't be too hard lol

Oh wait that last line looks almost like a bad joke lol