Help/advice needed please

[John1]

Hello all. I have a problem that I'd like some advice on please.

I have the problem of not being able to cum with my partner. I have no problem at all in getting hard (this is really easy) but whenever we get down to anything I end up with 'blue balls'. Just the other night we were at it for 3 hours & became fatigued, so fell asleep, then woke up in the morning & went at it again for another 2 hours, yet despite her best efforts I just couldn't cum. She was able to cum a fair bit, but was getting frustrated & felt inadequate that I couldn't cum despite her best efforts (so I felt like crap). She is very attractive so know that this isn't the problem (for those of you who were thinking it). I feel that I've no chance of cumming with a condom on (as I can't feel much) but want to practise safe sex with her, but even without a condom it's still very hard to even reach climax. I have the same problem (though not as bad) when I masturbate. I've had 'the snip' about 5 years ago & know that it can take away some sensitiveness, but I've always had a hard time in cumming, & wondered if anyone could please offer me/us some hope, as I'm getting really frustrated & don't want to hurt my lady.

[Garnet Anne]

Tough question.
Usually (in my experience) the situation is vastly reversed.
Have you considered maybe it is anxiety related?
It seems like you have a lot of stress about preforming and getting the job done, almost more to satisfy your lady's ego than your own needs.
Perhaps after getting "the snip" you began to feel a little inadequate and became tense on the subject of achieving climax?

Try to just relax, don't focus on "getting there" focus on the journey, just have fun with it. It sounds like (if you're going for hours) that you're either trying a bit too hard or you've got the "journey" part down. However...where is your mind during this? Are you hoping you'll make it or are you just enjoying the moment?

If it becomes painful or it is seriously beginning to upset you, I'd suggest seeing a doctor. But try to just relax a bit and see if that helps.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Kegels are exercises for your orgasm muscles. Next time you pee, stop the flow. You just contracted your orgasm muscles. Now contract them all day long to strengthen them. When you're having sex, constantly pump your orgasm muscles and visualise a huge fountain of cum going into your lady's vagina.