Anal sex.

[Noemis]

My and my wife want to do anal sex. Where do I put the lube and do I have to use a condom?

[Mistah Mcfizzle]

just rub the lube all over the area of insertion. but to be honest bro anal sex is not all its hyped up to be, it feels just like pussy almost lol.

[Noemis]

really, thanks. I just want to give it a shot just to make her happy.

[scarbowl]

Look through the forum for advice. You have to use lots of lube, be very gentle, and slowly open her up - preferably using fingers, first, or a small dildo.

Are you sure it is your wife who really wants this? Or you?

[Noemis]

thanks, Its mostly me but she was excited when I mentioned it.

[scarbowl]

Maybe consider letting her try it out on you, first? Pegging, I think it's called.

[Noemis]

Thanks, but no thanks.

[scarbowl]

Well, then, why should SHE want to try it?

I understand that it feels great (on the "giving" end) as I had a girlfriend who liked it. But, basically, it isn't an orifice intended to be used this way. Women have one that is.

So just why should it be only the woman on the receiving end of this? If you think it will be good or interesting for her, should the same be true for you?

I'm not trying to be hostile here, just pointing out that there is no particular reason it should be any more fun for her to have something stuck up her behind than for you to have the same experience.

[Noemis]

I understand what you are trying to say scarbowl, but just because you as a male enjoy having things in your behind dosent mean that I do. If she told me no I would love hey no less. But since she said excitingly yes. I was overjoyed. So she really dosent have to if she dosent want to so. Why not give. If she wanted to do it on me than I would say yes to her because I love her and would be willing. But if she dosent want to then why do it.

[Solnitsa Yada]

I've introduced this to a few girls, some who love it too much (better orgasms they say)

Start the first time, by finger rimming, running the finger around her anus, no penetration, while you kiss her/ go down on her or even during sex.. though usually during sex you want to goto step two

2. lube up your finger, with spit or other (sometimes her juices) and after rimming more, poke it.. SLOWLY into her hole..expect this to be extremely tight, and resistant

3, if she likes this.. bring her to an orgasm while your finger is still inserted, dont worry about anal sex just yet.

4. on a later time, maye the next morning, or next time you're having sex, you can penetrate her bottom again, and she'll be expecting it, this means she'll be more relaxed and able to take.. a deeper finger.. all the way up to your knuckle..

Maybe the same night, but maybe a later time, after the first finger has been in for at least a minute or two.. try a second finger, bring her to orgasm

dependant on your size, you may need a third finger, she needs to be comfortable with the fingers, and she needs to have orgasms with the fingers to associate her feelings with the anal penetration orgasm.

When you do go for the real deal, do so, before she orgasms, after using your fingers to relax her ready, take out the fingers, and put them back a few times, so her muscles are ready for something going in then out, then swap for your penis.

this can a bit difficult, actually, as the penis has no bone nor control like the finger.. sometimes having one finger still in there, helps guide your penis in..

The main problem for women is the fear/repulsion/uncomfortability. heck, if your willing to at least try, stick a finger in your own butt in the shower so you get the idea of what its going to feel like for her, so you'll be more gentle (heck, your doctor should be doing this yearly dude)

So making sure she's already excited to do it, each and every time, is vitally important..

Eventually, maybe after 5-6 times, it becomes more relaxed, more normal, and you'll be able to bring her to screaming orgasms just from A.S.

hope she experiences and enjoys, have fun.. be clean.