Great relationship, no sex.

[zk5201]

sorry that this is a tad long and repetitive, trying to be thorough yet i prolly missing some stuff.

I been going out with a girl for year, friends for a year before that, we get along great, still can talk for hours at a time and while our personalities kinda clash we get along well enough. Problem though? it's sexless. At best we'd have sex like once a week.

It's very frustrating, how she dislikes it. I try my best to make her feel good, try building up, romance, etc. She refuses to do anything besides missionary, she refuses to let me do oral or to return, or any variation. Whenever i try talking to her about it, she'd tell me she just doesn't see the point in doing it when we could be doing so much other things better like hang out, play games, etc. which we do often, and seems despite enjoying it, rathering do other things and flats out refuses experimenting in the bedroom.

There's strong physical relation, often hugging, cuddling, massages, carrying, etc,. as well, so it not like she could just feel there not a strong enough connection or anything. I tried talking and finding her feelings and that she feels it a waste of time when we could be doing other things, my ideas of experimenting is disgusting to her, and she feels if i truly loved her it shouldnt matter that she doesnt like doing it often or experimenting. I try not bringing up this too often and to be inquisitorial than threatening or argumentative.

Sadly while i do love her it does matter and i'm growing more and more frustrated, I don't think i could continue to remain faithful like this. advice please? thanks in advance for any thoughts in assisting me.

[FemaleOrgasm]

If you're both in your 20s and she doesn't like sex, then move on to a real woman.

Have high standards.

[Melody Brooke]

If she is having that big a problem with sex then there are obviously some problems.

A lot of women may not have had the best experiences, and that makes them think they don't like sex. If they have been used, abused or taken advantage of - they think that is what sex is all about. If you equate sex with something that is painful or at the least unpleasant, why would you ever have any interest in it?

Another reason some women aren't interested is that they have never reached orgasm! If she acts like she has, that doesn't mean she has... a huge number of women (and men) fake it. If she has bad memories in their heads its hard for her to give you the feedback you need to be able to bring her to orgasm. Then she will begin to think of sex as something that is a chore she have to do for you and not something she can really enjoy.

My husband Mike and I have put together a program to help couples like you. The Great Sex video serminar will help you talk about it and could get you moving in the direction of sexual intimacy. She need to know sex with you is different than she has had experiences with in the past.

The entire program is designed to help make the experience special and unique between you and to make it easier and easier to communicate what you like and enjoy. And of course, thats really hard for someone who has NO idea what it is they will enjoy. So we have to help her get connected enough with herself to know that, too.

The videos and workbook set are designed to open you up to your self and to your partner... and gives you tools and insights into your relationship that are truly amazing!