First Time

[xxNervousxx]

Me and my boyfriend are thinking about going all the way, and I've seen him before and he looks big! Im still a virgin and Im scared! Will it hurt? Will I bleed? I need advise because tomorrow we're going on a date and he got a hotel for us. He said its fine if Im not ready but I want to but Im really scared

[Beagle]

xxNervousxx: You can expect some mild pain and bleeding. Girls have a membrane called a hymen inside their vagina. This tears the first time you have intercourse and this is what causes the pain and minor (few drops) bleeding. A girl once told me it is a "sweet pain." It's not overwhelming, but you will have some discomfort. Make sure that there's a lot of foreplay before you have intercourse. that will help you relax and ensure that you lubricate properly. Remember, this is something that's totally natural for your body.

Make sure you're using contraception. If he's not a virgin or hasn't been tested for STD's, you need to use a condom. Girls do get pregnant the first time. Also, sponges aren't reliable enough. Sometimes teens think they can take one birth-control pill and avoid pregnancy. That's not accurate; you have to be on it an entire menstrual cycle for it to be effective.

Remember, this is a perfectly normal part of becoming an adult. Every woman you know has had her "first" experience at one time or another.

[xxNervousxx]

Thank you sooo much! Me and my boyfriend have been toghether for 4 months now and we really want it to be special! Thanks for letting me know what to expect because if I didn't know, I probaly would've freaked out! People have told me that after the first time it just gets to be very enjoyable so I can't wait to find out!

[FemaleOrgasm]

Tell him to put his index finger in your vagina (about 1-2 inches) and stroke towards your anus because this relaxes a ligament, which opens up your vagina. Then tell him to stroke on the front wall and side walls to open your vagina up even more. Use plenty of grapeseed oil as lubricant.

Also tell him to massage your neck and back for 30 minutes to get you completely relaxed because this will also relax your vagina.