he's not interested.

[janyta]

hello,
i have too many sex problems, i'm 26 years old, i a have a boyfriend and i live with him, i've never had a orgasm i've been with my boyfrien for almoust a year and know he is not interested in sex, i mean i always have to start when i what to have sex, i think we don't have enouth sex and i don't know what to do. i've tried to talk with him lots of times he thinks that me not having orgasm its normal and he doest care to try new things he never does oral sex to me and i always do it for him to get him in the mood, i tried to not having sex with him so he will ask me or something but nothing he can be more than a week without sex and i would like to have sex every day. i feel realy bad and not sexy, i try to be sexy for him and for men i'm realy pretty but i don't know, i'm very open to do lots of things and i'm always trying to do knew things but its like he doesnt care. help me please i'm too young to have sex 2 times a month. and i would like to have an orgasm.
thanks.

[Beagle]

Janyta: I'm not sure if you mean you've never had an orgasm WITH HIM or you've never had an orgasm, period.

There are several possibilities here. One is that he just has a lower sexual appetite than you do. That is a big concern. If one partner has a much higher sexual appetite, one will always be frustrated and the other will feel put upon.

2nd possibility: Low sexual drive and anorgasmia (lack of orgasm) can be a side effect of common antidepressants. If you or he are on an SSRI (Prozac, fluoxetine, celexa, lexapro, paxil, zoloft) then that could explain the problem.

3rd Possiblity: Are the problems in the bedroom a carry-over from problems outside the bedroom?

4th possibility: Is he depressed or experiencing a health problem? Is his energy level, not just sexual energy, generally low? Is he otherwise healthy?

Also, do you have an orgasm with other forms of stimulation, oral or manual?

It's going to take more information to figure out what's going on. Sometimes, figuring out what a problem is means figuring out what it's not. Let us know more, and I'll bet someone here can help.

[hunnyhunny]

In sexual relationship the rule is give and take, you should please your mate at the same time he should please you, and I wonder why you can't reach orgasm, maybe your man lack in foreplay or new ideas, another factor why you can't reach orgasm is your not mentally active, I know you want to have sex but when the situation comes maybe you were just thinking too much, this will hold your peek, try to open up the problem with your man, talk to him and tell him what you like, like where you want to be kissed or moves that stimulates you sexually, or when having sex and you were doing foreplay with him, try to place his hands on your body parts where it stimulates you and tell him to caress you while you are working on him, if he stops caressing you then stop also and remind him to continue what he was doing.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Don't waste your time with your loser soon to be ex-boyfriend.