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Old 06-09-2008, 02:12 PM
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I have a Black boyfriend. We have been together for a couple months. He has been wanting to have anal sex. I haven't had anal sex and I'm not going to. I think it's dangerous and I think it's nasty. He gets angry and to tell the truth I'm kind of afraid of him. Sometimesd he tries to manhandle me and acts like he's going to have sex there whether I like it or not. I have talked to other girls about this and they say Black guys like anal sex. I never had a White guy who wanted anal sex. I mean we would talk about it, but they didn't force the issue on me. Is this true about Black guys? I've only been with one, so I don't know.
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Old 06-10-2008, 10:04 PM
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Default He wants anal, give him anal! (up HIS butt!)

I think most guys are interested in anal sex, it's not just a black thing. It is NEVER cool to bully someone into doing something they don't want to do.

But hey, anal sex is not dangerous, you can check out this helpful guide called "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino, but check it out AFTER you dump this meanie you're with, don't read it for him, read it for you, to educate yourself.

OH and how about telling him you really want to stick things up HIS butt? Receiving anal is way more pleasurable for a guy because they have that magic prostate gland that likes stimulation. It's so cool that that is one erogenous zone both men and women share.
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Old 06-12-2008, 12:57 PM
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He gets angry and to tell the truth I'm kind of afraid of him. Sometimesd he tries to manhandle me and acts like he's going to have sex there whether I like it or not.


OK, I used to work in a prison as a corrections officer. I've dealt with his type before.. get away from him as quickly and safely as you can. Anal sex isn't dangerous if it's done right.. but if he's going to penetrate too quickly and without and lubrication then it can most definately cause you pain. But I don't think that the actual anal sex is the biggest problem here. You have a bad boy on your hands. How you get out of the relationship is totally up to you, and how he reacts. I have a very close friend who was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship and he attempted to get physically abusive when she broke up with him, but decided not to because she brought me along as a witness. He's now in jail, by the way, for threats and intimidation.. but that's neither here nor there.

Now if anal sex is something you want to try, then get yourself a patient and understanding man (black, white, asian, or green and purple polka dots - doesn't matter) and explore the back door of sexual pleasure. Also, if it's something you want to try, you can always get a toy and try it. Sometimes the toys that are actually made for anal may be intimidating, so a slim mini vibrator might be more fun. There's actually lots of interesting anal play you can do either alone or with an understanding partner. And when you get yourself a calmer and more understanding partner and anal is not something you want to do, then talk about it. Sex should be fun for both of you. Make sure your limits are clear, and his as well, so no one hurts or offends anyone. Then you can have mind blowing sex, anal or otherwise!
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Old 06-13-2008, 10:41 AM
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Dont worry truthseeker357
it doesnt mean that black guys like anal sex.even white guys like anal sex
so what you do is dont go with anal sex its very dangerous it can damage your! you know wat i mean. ok so enjoy good sex and have a nice day

my name is kumar byeeee
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Dont worry truthseeker357
it doesnt mean that black guys like anal sex.even white guys like anal sex
so what you do is dont go with anal sex its very dangerous it can damage your! you know wat i mean. ok so enjoy good sex and have a nice day

my name is kumar byeeee
Oh come on. Please educate yourself Kumar. Don't go telling people that anal sex is dangerous. Please, check this video out to see a D&J response to the is anal sex dangerous question.

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Old 06-23-2008, 09:21 PM
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I think it's ok to try it once
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dan or jennifer can u just e-mail me to talk?i really dont feel comfortable putting it out there yet. im sorry. people please dont laugh. im new to this site.
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Old 12-16-2008, 02:46 PM
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Cool It's not a Black man thing baby.

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I have a Black boyfriend. We have been together for a couple months. He has been wanting to have anal sex. I haven't had anal sex and I'm not going to. I think it's dangerous and I think it's nasty. He gets angry and to tell the truth I'm kind of afraid of him. Sometimesd he tries to manhandle me and acts like he's going to have sex there whether I like it or not. I have talked to other girls about this and they say Black guys like anal sex. I never had a White guy who wanted anal sex. I mean we would talk about it, but they didn't force the issue on me. Is this true about Black guys? I've only been with one, so I don't know.
don't listen to the bullshit these people are feeding you.Black men do of course love big asses on women.As far the clown talking about she/he or he use to be corrections officer, their retards. I was in prison for almost 10 years and that's not a behavior that begin in the joint.I love anal sex too but can't stand punks(homosexuals).
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Old 12-16-2008, 02:54 PM
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Wink Scorned?Sounds like it.

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OK, I used to work in a prison as a corrections officer. I've dealt with his type before.. get away from him as quickly and safely as you can. Anal sex isn't dangerous if it's done right.. but if he's going to penetrate too quickly and without and lubrication then it can most definately cause you pain. But I don't think that the actual anal sex is the biggest problem here. You have a bad boy on your hands. How you get out of the relationship is totally up to you, and how he reacts. I have a very close friend who was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship and he attempted to get physically abusive when she broke up with him, but decided not to because she brought me along as a witness. He's now in jail, by the way, for threats and intimidation.. but that's neither here nor there.

Now if anal sex is something you want to try, then get yourself a patient and understanding man (black, white, asian, or green and purple polka dots - doesn't matter) and explore the back door of sexual pleasure. Also, if it's something you want to try, you can always get a toy and try it. Sometimes the toys that are actually made for anal may be intimidating, so a slim mini vibrator might be more fun. There's actually lots of interesting anal play you can do either alone or with an understanding partner. And when you get yourself a calmer and more understanding partner and anal is not something you want to do, then talk about it. Sex should be fun for both of you. Make sure your limits are clear, and his as well, so no one hurts or offends anyone. Then you can have mind blowing sex, anal or otherwise!
You must have gotten involved with a inmate that hurt you real bad.You must have baby to be online spreading lies and fabricated rumors.There's a lot of homosexuals in jail.I notice that for some who sounds against anal sex, you sure do sound like you have a lot of experience.
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Old 12-16-2008, 02:57 PM
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Question Try to be a little more encouraging ok!

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I think most guys are interested in anal sex, it's not just a black thing. It is NEVER cool to bully someone into doing something they don't want to do.

But hey, anal sex is not dangerous, you can check out this helpful guide called "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino, but check it out AFTER you dump this meanie you're with, don't read it for him, read it for you, to educate yourself.

OH and how about telling him you really want to stick things up HIS butt? Receiving anal is way more pleasurable for a guy because they have that magic prostate gland that likes stimulation. It's so cool that that is one erogenous zone both men and women share.
How do you start off? You suggest that she ask him to stick something up his butt but you don't want anything stuck up yours?
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