Concerned and scared

[carolinagirl22]

It's hard for me to want to have intercourse with my boyfriend. Both of us feel bad but i feel worse especially when he says i dont want to be with him that i would rather be with someone else. i hate that i cant please my boyfriend. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!! REALLY CONCERNED!!!!!!!!!

[stephen]

There is nothing for you to be scared about. Even though you are wanting to intercourse, but don't. My respect is out to you. Remember since we do not have alot of information about you. Like age and so on. Just remember do not let anyone tell what you need to be doing. Just do what feels right for you. Please do not let your boy friend sway you a different direction..

Good luck

[Beagle]

That sounds like one of those pouty things guys say when they're trying to get a girl to "give it up." Don't let him make you feel guilty about his hangups.

So many guys dump girls after they get sex, it makes me ashamed to be a guy sometimes. I'm always leery of someone who doesn't want to respect your boundaries. I'm also concerned about the way he's trying to manipulate you. I think that feeling you're having, the one that's holding you back, is your intuition telling you something just isn't right here.

If he cares about you, he'll respect your boundaries and wait. If not, he'll move on to someone who he can manipulate. Either way, you win. Good for you.

[Xero]

Originally Posted by Beagle

That sounds like one of those pouty things guys say when they're trying to get a girl to "give it up." Don't let him make you feel guilty about his hangups.

So many guys dump girls after they get sex, it makes me ashamed to be a guy sometimes. I'm always leery of someone who doesn't want to respect your boundaries. I'm also concerned about the way he's trying to manipulate you. I think that feeling you're having, the one that's holding you back, is your intuition telling you something just isn't right here.

If he cares about you, he'll respect your boundaries and wait. If not, he'll move on to someone who he can manipulate. Either way, you win. Good for you.

Couldn't have said it any better this is exactly the way it is.

If he cannot respect what you want, and how you want to do things. Then hes not worth your time. It's as simple as that and that's the way it really is. Don't let him force you into doing anything you don't want to.

It is completely wrong if he does not respect the way you want things to go.

[carolinagirl22]

Thank you everyone But there is one thing i was with my boyfriend for about 2years and 6 months and i left him cause of all of the problems that we had and we got back together about 4 to 6 months ago and its driving me nuts cause pretty much he is the only one this has happened with. I want to be able please him and at the same time please myself. Sometimes i wonder if it could be because there are times i dont want to be with him. Does Any one know what i should do. Also to let every one know i am 22 and this makes me feel bad because i wasnt like this befor please help me.

[stephen]

You have nothing to fret over. Stand by your ground, and tell him to jerk off. Still say what we have all told you is correct.

[carolinagirl22]

I agree but i want to know why this is happening to me now!

[Xero]

Originally Posted by carolinagirl22

Thank you everyone But there is one thing i was with my boyfriend for about 2years and 6 months and i left him cause of all of the problems that we had and we got back together about 4 to 6 months ago and its driving me nuts cause pretty much he is the only one this has happened with.

So you're saying you had some other boyfriend before? (I'm just trying to get a clear picture of this)

Originally Posted by carolinagirl22

I want to be able please him and at the same time please myself. Sometimes i wonder if it could be because there are times i dont want to be with him. Does Any one know what i should do.

Are you pleased with your relationship with out sex, and if this wasn't a problem? If that is the case than he is the only one who is causing all the trouble. (This might not answer the whole question)

Originally Posted by carolinagirl22

Also to let every one know i am 22 and this makes me feel bad because i wasnt like this befor please help me.

Your like this because you are more mature than you where before you where 22. Women mature a lot faster than men do. So acting the way you do is just being your grown up self.


Besides my replies to the quotes above, are you still a virgin? I just wish to know so I can get a better picture on this issue.

[FemaleOrgasm]

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