He wants me to do anal but i don't like it...what do i do??

[wshottie17]

Ok so my boyfriend wants to have anal sex with me. I've never really been a fan of it and in my opinion it's kind of gross and it really hurts. I have tried it with him once and it hurt real bad and i havent done it since!! He keeps tryin to get me to and when i say no he gets upset. What do i do??

[Xero]

He should understand why you don't want to have it. You could also try it again just with more lube and him taking things slower.

If he does know why you don't like it, things would be a bit easier.

[Beagle]

I agree with Xero. This is a conversation you and he need to have. Not every sexual activity is for everybody, and that's OK. If he cares about you, he'll respect your feelings. No one should engage in something they're really uncomfortable with.

It sounds like you wouldn't like it no matter if it stopped physically hurting, so I'm not going to make any recommendations there. If you don't like it, there's no reason you should feel pressured. We all have to respect each others' feelings in any relationship.

Is it possible that you and he rushed it before you were ready? Many people start very gently, by inserting a lubricated finger, then two, before trying actual anal intercourse. If you decide to give it another try, then that would be the way to start. If you're still just not comfortable with it, then don't do it.

[wshottie17]

thanks that really helps alot!! I know it upsets him and it upsets me because he wants to do it so bad but i dont know i've never been into that!! I told him tht wen we first started dating! But i will figure somethin out

[Beagle]

Just share how you feel and how anal sex makes you feel. Then he either has to respect your feelings or move on. If he moves on, then you're actually the winner because he didn't care to start with. Especially, since you told him early on that you weren't into anal sex. If you had been "putting out" until you were married/committed, then told him you weren't interested, I would say that was wrong. However, you have been upfront and honest with him from the start and he should have respected your wishes or respected you enough to move on. Don't ever let a man pressure you into doing things that aren't consistent with who you are.

You have been honest from the start. You haven't done anything wrong here. Don't let him make you feel guilty. You're just being who you are.

[naughtytouchcouple]

no man would ever ask his wife/girlfriend to do something he was scared to do. is he willing to give anal to you? he should go first, lol...

[Jo_]

First of all, I think he has no right to get upset with you for saying no to something you don't like. If he really cares about you, he should respect your feelings and your decisions. You should really have a long talk with him and explain to him how you feel about it. I understand you think its gross, I feel the same way as you do and I guess I would never try it. Talk to him, tell him you don't like it and you really don't want to do it again. There are a lot of ways for both to get pleasured, so there's no need for you to do something you don't feel confortable with. If he can't understand and keep getting upset with you then you may have to think better about your releationship.

[FemaleOrgasm]

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She went from no to yes. From sore to anal orgasm.

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