Sex problems with my girlfriend (orgasm and condoms)

[lostinsex]

Alright, I've got two questions concerning my girlfriend who I've been dating for almost 4 years. Sorry in advance if this is the wrong forum...


1) I've never given her an orgasm.
She says she doesn't care. I care a lot about it. It's driven me crazy for-fucking-ever. She was my first and I was hers too. The only way she can ever have an orgasm is when she's on top, and when she is, it's a massive workout.
When fingering her, she'll say it feels really good but eventually her clit becomes "too sensitive" and she'll start laughing as if it tickled. I've tried fingering her g-spot but can't go fast enough to get her up to the actual orgasm. I can definately hit her g-spot during sex (she gets really wet and starts squirming), but she'll say she needs to pee or it's "too much" and makes me stop (even though the internet says not to.........)
Eating her out typically doesn't even go that well. I'll lick her clit and everything but it never gets her anywhere close to an orgasm. "It feels good, just not THAT kind of good."
I feel like I've run out of options too. She can't even make herself orgasm through masturbation. It's just driving me crazy that I can't. I feel like there's some secret I'm missing. Anyone?



2) I want to stop using condoms.
She's been on the pill since before we started dating. I feel like condoms are genearlly pointless and the pill is completely effective. She never forgets to take it. You could almost say I have a fetish for cumming inside her. She just not comfortable. For the first few months we were having sex, we didn't use condoms, and then she started insisting.
I know it's a little selfish, and if here is no way to make her comfortable with it, then I won't do it. Anyone have any experience at getting them "more comfortable" with the idea of not using a condom?

[Xero]

You may want to refer to these to learn more on how to give her orgasms.

Originally Posted by FemaleOrgasm

YouTube - Female orgasm | C spot | Clitoris| Demonstration with rubber vagina
YouTube - Female orgasm | G spot | Female ejaculation | Squirting | Demonstration with rubber vagina
YouTube - Female orgasm | A spot | Demonsration with rubber vagina

But for when you are fingering her you should try to get her to pee. It's not pee it's cum and she probably doesn't know the difference. It's just going to take time to get her to do it. Try and educate her on it if possible.

For the condom issue, the pill isn't 100% effective, and even if she doesn't miss a day things can still happen, that's life. So condoms would probably be good for now. Other than that getting her to change her mind will take time. I wouldn't pressure her too much about it or she'll get annoyed and never consider the option.

[Adriane in Louisiana]

I'm having the same problems. What I can say from my experiences is that it's not your fault. With me, I just have problems in general. It's hard to cum by myself, impossible to come with someone else, and have never had a g-spot orgasm even after finding it. I don't know what to do.