Fingering Issue

[Xero]

Alright so me and my girlfriend where talking about sex, and it some how led to fingering. She is not interested in fingering at all, and she finds it very disgusting. So she wants to just skip that part and go from second base to straight sex.

We probably have a good while before this happens. But I just really want to finger her because I'm pretty sure I could do a good job with it. I also believe it would really help to loosen the vagina before sex the first time. She finds it just completely disgusting and I got her to at least agreeing to try it for me.

Is there anything that I can do to convince her more that it will be alright, and to make it easier on her? I will never force or harm her in any way.

I am mostly concerned that I'm going to hurt her really bad for out first time and just wish that she isn't hurt as much so I wish to properly prepare her.

Thank you so much for any advice you can give me.

[YourEternalRest]

Are you going straight to fingering or are you "building something up" before that? This is the newest video by Dan and Jenn. I think it might help out.

YouTube - Orgasm Tip #2 - Why Anticipation Is Crucial

[Xero]

Ok, I reviewed the video, and yes I am building tension.

She finds the idea of fingering just disgusting. Like the hands are not made to be there is what she said.

I told her I'll wash my hands before hand, and clip my nails so they are not sharp. Are there any other things I can do to make it better? So I don't mess up the first time and drive her away from it for ever.

[YourEternalRest]

She finds the idea of having a finger in there disgusting? Does she masturbate at all? Also, the idea of sex is having a penis inside a vagina. If she thinks having a finger in there is disgusting, how does she plan on having intercourse?

Oh, as for what you can do, you can try licking your fingers before putting them in there.....that's if you can get her to change her mind first of course.

[Xero]

Originally Posted by YourEternalRest

She finds the idea of having a finger in there disgusting? Does she masturbate at all? Also, the idea of sex is having a penis inside a vagina. If she thinks having a finger in there is disgusting, how does she plan on having intercourse?

Yea, I asked her that and she was like that's fine just not the hands.

To my knowledge she doesn't masturbate, and learning this I really bet she doesn't.

[FemaleOrgasm]

Here's a video: YouTube - Emotional Freedom Techniques - EFT - Learn in 5 minutes!

Use this "set-up phrase": "Even though I find fingering disgusting, I deeply and completely accept myself."