Whose problem is it?

[30-one man-two cats]

My bf and I have been together almost 3 years, but the entire time we've been together we've had problems in bed. He has a very difficult time getting off.

He thinks it is because I'm overweight, and it makes me not tight enough. I think he has some nerve damage.

I AM overweight (not enormous, but some), but he is attracted to me, and he has no trouble getting aroused. However, I've never had any complaints before, even when dating guys with smaller penises, or when I was heavier than I am now.

He says he's never had this problem before, but he has told me in the past that he finds it impossible to get off with a condom on. He also has trouble unless I'm somewhat dry, which is uncomfortable for me.

I've never been able to get him off with oral sex, and he seems to enjoy manual stimulation more...again, sort of dry.

His preference for dry sex goes against everything I've known about sex, and it makes me think he has some nerve damage, so he needs more friction than most people.

My question is: could me being overweight make my vagina not tight enough? Or does it sound like he has nerve damage?

[Xero]

I don't think it's either, to me it seems the condom is reducing the friction that he is getting and he is used to rougher things. Which the condom does reduce friction a little, and it has happened to many people on here and my best friend as well.

I would not have dry sex that would just cause a lot of problems. I suggest you guys having normal sex, then maybe giving him a hand job to get him off. This might be just what he needs.

[30-one man-two cats]

We aren't using condoms at all. That's what's so weird to me. He says he can't feel me, but I can feel him plenty.

[slittylicker]

Is he taking anti-depressants?
That could contribute to this type of problem.

[30-one man-two cats]

He wasn't on any meds until the last 4 or 5 months of our relationship, but we've had this problem since the first day. He's currently on albuterol for his asthma.

I've asked him if it is that too. I wondered if maybe just his trouble breathing was making it difficult, but he says it never stopped him before.