Why can't I have sex???

[coreman009]

My girlfriend and I are virgins, and havent done anything sexual with anyone else. We've recently been trying very hard to have our first time after 11 and a half months. However, a few problems arise when trying:
1. I'm very hard, but a few seconds after putting the condom on, I get soft, and lose my erection, so I cant really get in her.
2. She gets too tight when I get in her, so it hurts, as she gets too small for me. She said she will work on controlling that for the next try though.
3. When I do get in her, I can feel that I'm in, and she feels me in her, but neither of us feel any sort of pleasure. I'm thrusting in and out, but I dont feel anything.
4. Its very hard to actually get in her, it seems SO much easier in porn, but its hard to find the hole, and once I do, I'm no longer hard enough to get in her totally.
PLEASE HELP ME!!! We've tried many times, and its startingh to really upset us!

PS. We've tried me on bottom, doggystyle, and butterfly, but the only way that seems like it MIGHT work is regular missionary position.

[Cristina in Vancouver]

I went through that with my boyfriend too at 11 months into our relationship. We knew we were ready, but it wasn't working. The best thing is to not think about it - you're both putting so much pressure on having intercourse that it's working against you...Start kissing and go with the flow - don't make the goal intercourse and it will come naturally...

If it doesn't feel good, try other things such as having her suck on you so you get used to the sensation of something wet and tight...

If you're both virgins, why are you using a condom? If you're going to start having sex, make sure you have other birth control such as the pill as a backup. If you're afraid of pregnancy, keep in mind condoms break. Not using a condom also enhances the sensation so it's nice not to use it, especially at first.

I hope I'm not too late with an answer!!!

[FemaleOrgasm]

Train your penis to stay hard with a condom on.

Do this by watching porn (by yourself) with a condom and masturbating to orgasm. This will train your penis to stay hard and orgasm in a condom.

Train her vagina by using lots of lubribant and loosen her vagina by inserting your finger into it and stroking down towards her anus.