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Old 11-05-2009, 04:48 PM
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The subject of anal has come up very gingerly between me and my girlfriend a couple of times now, not really instigated by either of us. Both of us were a little unsure about the subject at first, neither of us wanting to say something the opther didn't want to hear, which is really weird for the two of us, as we are very open with each other, but I guess anal has got quite a taboo about it, for sweet innocent people like us lol.

It turns out that we are both slightly grossed out by it, but are also both intrigued. I have never tried it, and my girlfriend has tried it once very very briefly after a boyfriend pestered her, but it was an extremely short experience as it hurt so much. After talking about it we both want to try it together, but I want to make sure it's good for her and doesn't hurt, any advice and is it actually good for her? She has already been put off by a negative experience, although only for a matter of moments, I just don't want to put her through that again.

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Old 11-06-2009, 03:20 PM
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Ok, to be honest and frank it doesn't really have any benefit.

Anal sex should be taken slowly if done. I would wear a condom, and use lots of lube. Its going to be very tight because its an out hole not an in hole. There may be some fecal matter depending on the last time she went. There are things called (I believe) eniemas where you can pick that stuff out and then have sex.

The anus can be stretched due to the size of your penis going in there. Which can cause problems in the future. Where as to a #2 could be come tough, and things could seep out during not going. The muscle will be come stronger because it will be worked by the penis.

If you really want to try it you can wear a condom and use lots of lube. Take it very slow, and keep communication going and stop if anything begins to hurt. Any hurting can result in unwanted damage. Bleeding can cause infections because the wound would get dirty really easily. Don't use any numbing agents because that will numb the pain and you could cause damage that would be bad.

If you have any questions ask. I tried to remember most of the things that I know but might have forgot some. I also apologize for the day wait. I wanted some one else's input first, and I was also kinda busy yesterday.
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Old 11-13-2009, 01:17 AM
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...you give her multiple vaginal orgasms. This is so her orgasm muscles are so strong that she can have anal orgasms.

After you have a shower, the anus is relatively clean. So you don't have to be grossed out by poo.

Use vaseline as a lubricant.

To get her excited about the idea, say "It would be really hot if I could give you an anal orgasm after I make your pussy cum, but we can't do that." This "negative suggestion" will make her want it.

While she's cumming during vaginal, put a finger in her anus so she associate anal stimulation with orgasm.
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Old 11-13-2009, 04:41 PM
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Yeah I give her multiple orgasms when she's on top, or are you saying I need to give her multiple orgasms and then next time we have sex go for anal?
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Old 11-13-2009, 05:52 PM
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Default Multi-orgasmic means

Shes cums in any position.

To do this, first "train" her vagina with your fingers:

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