need sex question answered - wife masturbates in her sleep?

[grizz1y]

I have a question:
1. My wife masturbates to orgasm during the night and according to her she does not know this. She is not a very sexual person and will not do this for me. We do have some very hot sex but it is only once a week or so. is she really unaware of this or is she dreaming of great sex. We have been together for 16 years and this is just started to happen in the last six months that I know of. She is not one to use toys; I have bought them for her in the past or she uses them in private and doesn't want me to know about it. I feel that would spice up our kinda boring same type of weekly sex but she says she is happy.

[fawkse]

if your are awakened at night while she is at play, join in. come to her aid... or, you could use this moment to watch and enjoy... maybe a little touchy of yourself... chances are that she is what i like to say: sleep walking hehe...
i do this at times with myself. i have even woken up while doing some sexual play with my parnter...
if i were you, i would find a creative way to utilize this moment.
may partner enjoys it when i wake him up with oral. maybe you could use this moment to create a nice wake up for your lady.
think about it. you are having a wounderful dream about some sexual fantasy, and you become awakened with your parnter loving on you. personally, that is a wounderful expirience from either side of the spectrum.
think about it...

[Dan And Jennifer]

I agree...

Join in or enjoy the view.

However, this does blur the line of "consenting" adults. Talk to her first and make sure that she OK with it...

Also, it seems to me that she has some repressed sexual desires that she may be too shy to share with others. If you take it slow, you may be able to encourage her to share with you. Maybe share some of your secret fantasies with her first...

Will she let you use the toys on her? Maybe she's too embarrassed to do it herself...

Have the two of you ever tried masturbating in the same room?

Gently push those boundaries so that you can get more comfortable with one another.

It seems that you have only seen the tip of the iceberg as to where your sex life 'could' go...