Vagina too small???

[Becca018]

My question is very similar to Tabby's of TX. My boyfriend and I of 2 years have been have having great sex. I have never not had an orgasm and neither has he. The problem is... his penis sometimes tears my vagina. I don't understand this because he really isn't abnormally big. He's pretty much your "average joe" when it comes to the size of his tool. But if we don't have sex for even 2 or three days he tears me. (We're usually everyday to every other day- we both have extrememly high sex drives) The tearing isn't major- just enough to see a little blood when I "clean myself up." But that doesn't make it any less painful!

I talked to my OBGYN about it- she thought maybe things weren't moist enough. I assured her thats not the case. She suggested on our off days I insert a dildo momentarily, to keep me "stretched". But wtf!?!? How come? I don't understand why. I don't think I should be having this problem at all- who honestly retightens that quickly?!?!

help!
- Becca, CA

[Sin Secret]

That does seem pretty strange, and really your GYN seems to have the only logical explanation. Have you used extra lubrication? I mean, sure, we lubricate ourselves, but maybe your skins so sensitive it needs twice as much?
Also, maybe your skin is dry? Try a lower pH soap and a vagina-friendly lotion after showering to keep your skin from drying out.
Also, try different positions and roughness. Perhaps your going at it too rough and in a position that rubs against a bad spot?

That's all I can think of at the moment. I'll see if I can find anything else.

<3
Sin

[polkadot86]

I have had this problem before, too. For me, it was all about the angle at which he was approaching me. If you're doing missionary, put a pillow underneath you to help. Make sure that he is coming inside of you at the center of your vagina, not to either end, if that makes any sense.

I hope that helps you, as it helped me. I tear very infrequently now. Makes things much more enjoyable.

[Becca018]

Oh thnks so much! The dry/sensitive skin thing does make sense- siince i have both! I'll try the pillow thing tonight and see how it goes