My unhealthy use of homemade sex toys.

[TFTS]

I worked at a shop that deals with metal and in memory of my ex-girlfriend i decided to ask my boss if i could come in on the weekend and pursure a project of my own and that it wouldn't take alot of time. While we were dating i really became accustomed to her fisting me... i've been with a couple of girls since but it has been doing nothign for me. I even had to fake an orgasm during sex once because i was starting to loose my erection... I even tried out gay sex to see if that's what i needed... i couldn't find a man who even came close to what it felt like when she did it. But It wasn't just a physical thing... i just can't be with men. I know that know. so when i got the okay from my boss i had an exact replica of my ex's fist... we're still good friends and was willing to help. Ever since my replica had been completed i have been able to climax again. Since then i decided to try my hand at trying to date again... when it got to the point where we were about to have sex i entertained the fact of how I personally like sex. the girl was so disgusted that she left my house and since i worked with her, it eventually spread around the shop. Co-workers who i thought were my friends stopped talking to me and had to find another job. This need for a certain kind of taboo physical climax has turned my world into a shame. I'm feeling realy down and would really just like some help.

My question is this... Do you know anyway that i can move past this dependancy to this type of sex? Some way that i can begin to have a relationship and a normal life again?

I'm really counting on you guys for this.

[FreezeFlame]

Wow, this is why humanity makes me want to cry sometimes.

First of all: Never be ashamed of who you are or what you enjoy.

The way that girl reacted wasn't right. It was fine that she was a bit put off by the whole fisting thing, as it would come as a shock, but the fact that she told a personal fact about you to others without your permission was very tasteless on her part.

My advice to you is as follows:

As far as finding a good sexual relationship goes: Try finding a girl who seems very playful and a bit kinky. She'll be more likely to try fisting you than some prissy little thing who feels uncomfortable with anything but the missionary position.

For your reputation and such: Try to remember that what some think is not what everyone thinks. There is a reason for the existance of the statement: "Whatever floats your boat". Try to make it not seem so awkward if people act weird about it. 99% of the time they are simply caught off-guard and have this idea in their head that you're some pervert who they could never relate to. If someone is acting awkward toward you because of your sexual interest, just try and make light of it. [re]Affirm them that you are a good guy and make them feel more comfortable around you by laughing at yourself when the time is good.

I really hope I've helped even slightly. Just try to feel better about yourself, because you've been hard on yourself because of this lately.

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P.S: I find that a lot of fetishes link to other ones simply through psychological similarities.

For example: I have recently discovered that I love the idea of my partner wearing a hat to shroud their eyes with shadow during sex. This links to the mystery aspect of my playrape fetish, and the dominant (the way I imagine it) aspect of my bondage fetish.

So try to find something else that links to fisting as an alternate to it so you can still enjoy sex with girls who aren't so kinky. Look at the specific aspects of what this is doing to you that turns you on so much and try to think of other things that make you feel similarly.

PPS: If you aren't already, make sure you're using lots of lube! It's far too easy to damage something in there when you're putting foreign objects into it!

^.^ Kurt ^.^

[Dibiase]

Originally Posted by FreezeFlame

Wow, this is why humanity makes me want to cry sometimes.

First of all: Never be ashamed of who you are or what you enjoy.

The way that girl reacted wasn't right. It was fine that she was a bit put off by the whole fisting thing, as it would come as a shock, but the fact that she told a personal fact about you to others without your permission was very tasteless on her part.

My advice to you is as follows:

As far as finding a good sexual relationship goes: Try finding a girl who seems very playful and a bit kinky. She'll be more likely to try fisting you than some prissy little thing who feels uncomfortable with anything but the missionary position.

For your reputation and such: Try to remember that what some think is not what everyone thinks. There is a reason for the existance of the statement: "Whatever floats your boat". Try to make it not seem so awkward if people act weird about it. 99% of the time they are simply caught off-guard and have this idea in their head that you're some pervert who they could never relate to. If someone is acting awkward toward you because of your sexual interest, just try and make light of it. [re]Affirm them that you are a good guy and make them feel more comfortable around you by laughing at yourself when the time is good.

I really hope I've helped even slightly. Just try to feel better about yourself, because you've been hard on yourself because of this lately.

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

P.S: I find that a lot of fetishes link to other ones simply through psychological similarities.

For example: I have recently discovered that I love the idea of my partner wearing a hat to shroud their eyes with shadow during sex. This links to the mystery aspect of my playrape fetish, and the dominant (the way I imagine it) aspect of my bondage fetish.

So try to find something else that links to fisting as an alternate to it so you can still enjoy sex with girls who aren't so kinky. Look at the specific aspects of what this is doing to you that turns you on so much and try to think of other things that make you feel similarly.

PPS: If you aren't already, make sure you're using lots of lube! It's far too easy to damage something in there when you're putting foreign objects into it!

^.^ Kurt ^.^

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