ShyTeen Needs Help

[ShyTeen2112]

I'm 15 and im really shy round women i know that i should be ok with myself but i really get tongue twisted round females and i really feel like i want a girlfriend and theres someone im interesting in but ... everytime i try to talk to any girls i just dont know wha to say, its messed up and im really unexperienced ive never kissed a girl and ive never flirted before and i know im rambling but i am getting really desperate can anyone give me any advice

[Beagle]

Step One: Relax and take a deep breath.

At fifteen, it's perfectly natural and normal to feel that way around girls. What I'm about to say is really going to surprise you. Don't try to make yourself not feel nervous. Instead, embrace it and act in spite of it.

Once I was with a girl who really made me nervous. I was afraid she would see that and it would turn her off. I decided to take the bull by the horns and face the situation. I told her. "I get really nervous around you." She laughed and told me she got nervous around me to. The fear is that the anxiety will prevent the girl from liking you. So, you're nervous about being nervous. The key is to face that fear and realize that she is really harmless.

Don't try to copy the guys on TV. That never works. Just be yourself and start talking to girls. The key isn't to be brilliant. It's to talk to her like she's somebody. Girls like sports too. Ask her if she likes a team. A good way to make conversation is just to pay attention. If she wears a sports jersey, she's probably into that team and wants to talk about them. If she has boy bands on her jacket, that's probably a good topic. Just start the conversation. Then, the most important thing, is to just listen. When we're nervous we tend to talk too much, and ramble as you said earlier. Stop trying to be witty and just talk to her about stuff, sports or TV or her pets or whatever. Then listen when she talks, without interrupting. You will be surprised how far that gets you. If someone has a pet, they always want to talk about that. Or, that crazy teacher that no one can stand. Or that great teacher that can make physics come to life. Or the crazy fight in the cafeteria. If you see her carrying a novel, that's a great topic of conversation.

To sum it up, don't try to impress her. Be impressed by her. Listen to what she says, and you'll probably be amazed at how well things go. Don't ask her out too quickly, or tell her you have feelings. Just relax and enjoy her company.

Please come back and let us know what happens.

[CKDK]

Fully agreed with the above post, but definitely should stress to be yourself. Don't put on any false pretenses, just be yourself, and don't be embarassed if you are shot down - just be friends. There is no magical way to get someone to like you - and when someone does find the magical cure to do so they'll bottle it and make billions.