Watching my wife with another man

[bungie]

How can I convince my wife that me watching her be with another man is not a gateway for me to be with another women. I have no desire or will have any to be with another women. I only want to see her with another man.

[rick181au]

It’s a sad fact of life that a lot of men use that ploy to achieve their own end “EG going with other women” and it can be hard to convince your wife otherwise, it’s just something you have got to work through yourself, “as a lot of us guys have done”.
In our case it did take a lot of talking to get the wife to go with another guy as I was the only guy she had been with having taken her cherry when she was 19, she was 35, the mother of our two children and had her tubes tied when she went with her first ever other guy, that did lead us into the swinging scene but that was more so at her instance to even the score so to speak, we enjoyed it but she was still going with a lot more men then I was going with women.
After a period of time in and out of the scene we did end up settling down to regular M F M threesomes, which to me was the better way to go as I get my pleasure out of seeing my wife going with other guys “and either joining in or waiting my turn after they have finished”!