Is it weird that I want to see my wife with another man?

[BobV]

My wife and I have been married for 3 and a half years. During the heat of the moment (often while watching porn) we have discussed bringing in a third person.

Originally we had only discussed another woman and both thought that if the situation ever arose, that a girl would be the only option. Recently I have had an increasing fantasy about seeing her with another guy. We have talked about it during sex and we both really enjoyed the fantasy and had intense orgasms. I am really intersted in making either one of these actually happen but am leaning towards the mfm. I have no interest in interacting with the guy myself but would love to either enter her from behind while she sucks him off or vice versa. I am afraid to make this fantasy a reality because of how it might make her think of me.

Also, I have read some on this topic and it seems that many who have this fantasy are "cuckolds" which from my understanding means the man likes to watch his wife with another because the humiliation turns him on. This is not what I'm searching for, yet after I fantasize about my wife with another man I tend to feel guilty about the fantasy. I think this is because it seems like I shouldn't have these.

Is it normal that I feel that way?

We are going on vacation next month and I think that might be the perfect opportunity to make it happen because it would be with someone we would never see again and there is no risk of emotional attachment.

I also get really turned on if she dresses in revealing clothing (micro mini skirts, extreme low plunge tops, etc) but only if it is when we are out together and not around people we know. I like when she has confidence and feels sexy and knows that guys are turned on by her. She is not an overly conservitive person but I think my level of interest in that situation freaks her out a little bit.

Any feedback is appreciated.

[stephen]

To answer you question, no it is not weird. To having what i believe most men have thought about one time or another. This is something you need to really communicate with your half. Even if you brought in another female i would still want to talk about it with my other half. Because it has to be the two of you wanting this fantasy. Needs to be shared by both of you totally. Once this has been agreed on then the fantasy can come alive with whom she might like to have as the other partner in this fantasy. Then the same for you when the female is coming over. Communication between you both is a total must on this.

Hear something you might think about, even with your better half. When a male does come over, and you are sure you are not wanting to touch him. Think about this and have your other half say what she is feeling. Could be surprising what come out.

Good luck