He wants me to do what?!?!

[Cooper in Toronto]

I have been seeing this guy for a couple months now and last night he told me that he would like to watch me have sex with another man. He explained that he gets off on it and always has and that is something he wants in his life. To be honest, I felt completely blind sided, angry, upset, curious, etc.

I am an open minded individual and think 'to each their own'. I have been doing research on it and have found out a lot of info.
I really like him and he has so many qualities I am looking for in a man but this just is destroying me emotionally. Granted I have only had 24 hrs to process this--

In my world- I had never even thought or considered something like this. It is all new to me and challenges every ideal thought I have ever had concerning relationships.

I just don't know how to handle this- all I can do is cry, I am not even sure why I am crying. So does anyone have any advice for someone to emotionally accept and cope with this? Or should I just end the relationship? Does the weird wrong feeling ever go away?

Thank you so much!
Coops

[Xero]

You shouldn't do it unless you are ready for it which currently you are not ready.

Doing this would be adding another person into your relationship. This to me is almost considered swinging. I would suggest to talk this over and read some things online about swinging before you go into this because it can be complex and can ruin your relationship.

Remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to.

[greenclover]

I am the third entry into a triangle. My lover, Tanner and my husband Li were lovers before I was brought in. It was a mutual decision on all of our parts and shouldn't be made lightly. I would suggest playing with toys in front of your man, if you feel comfortable. Make him sit and watch you please yourself. he can imagine it is another guy. If it is something that upsets you then you are not ready. Being in a threesome is hard work and struggle. Do not go into it thinking that it will be a one time thing with this guy. if he wants to see it now, he will probobly want to see it again.

[Cooper in Toronto]

Thanks for the good advice, I really appreciate it! I am going to assume this is something that takes some time to become comfortable with. .
Thanks again

[RoxyandC]

...become comfortable with the idea and that's ok. My wife and I decided to swing with another couple and I, to my own surprise, discovered that it kind of turned me on to see my beautiful wife being pleasured by another man. I have told her that even if I wasn't with a woman at the same time, I felt I could have just sat and watched...it blew me away to be honest.

Anyways, what ever your decision is - there is no wrong decision - just what works for you two!

Roxy and C
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