Wife may want to act out fantasy....

[Doug in PA]

My wife of 25 years, we're both in our early 40's, has recently begun to open up sexually, more than ever before. I've always had a healthy appetite for sex and she has always been great in bed but now she's really opening up. We are enjoying adult films now, from time to time, and they really get things hot for both of us. Sex is more intense now than ever.

In the heat of passion, she has also shared with me her hottest fantasy; and that is for her to watch another woman give me a blowjob. I'll be honest, the thought of that sends me through the roof! We talk about it during sex and it really fires things up for both of us. She says that she just wants to watch and then, when I'm done, it would be over.

However, she has learned that a good friend of hers has done the exact same thing. She and her husband picked a girl up at a bar and went back to the hotel with her. She gave the husband a blowjob and then the wife went down on the girl. My wife was telling me the story and we both got really worked up and have talked about it alot since then. I think now, if it were to happen, she would do more than watch.

We are going away for the weekend at the end of this month, without any kids, and we "joke" about picking up partner for the night. We would only ever do it if we were out of town and would never see the person again. We have agreed on that. But my question is, how would we ever begin to approach a woman at a bar about something like this? Or is there another way that anyone can tell us about to help us out? We are both on the edge about this and a drink or 2 would really help us lose our inhibitions and go for it. Any advice would really be appreciated.

[Xero]

I would advise against it for a few reasons.

My first wold be the three some it's self, it can cause damage to a sexual relationship no matter who you do it with. Your wife may think that you are attracted more to other women which would cause a problem in the long run.

My second reason is because you can get any type of STD's / STI's from this random person you have sex with. You don't really know who they are and what they could have.

[tankman101]

Xero that's not what he asked about

Here is his question

"But my question is, how would we ever begin to approach a woman at a bar about something like this? Or is there another way that anyone can tell us about to help us out?"

Doug,

You are asking the holy grail of threesomes bud

Finding a single interested female is probably one of the most difficult things you can do in swinging. My advice is join a swingers website or start going to house parties or swingers clubs IF you guys are ready for that. Also just because you go to these types of clubs doesn't mean you are obligated to do anything. It is a big step so really talk it over. Other then that, it's just dumb luck.
Asking around to regular folks is a good way to draw attention to yourself and most people are not cool with swingers and tend to judge and discriminate against them.

Approaching single women in vanilla clubs seems like a recipe for disaster.

Swinging is a lot of fun but you gotta meet up with other swingers. You know, if you want to play baseball, you gotta hang out with baseball players. Going to the bingo hall probably isn't the right place.

[Doug in PA]

Thanks, Tankerman.

You always think of this type of thing to be guys with RayBan sunglasses, open collar shirts and lots of gold chains but we're finding that not to be the case. We were kinda creeped out by the house party type of thing at first but the closer this becomes to reality, the more interesting it becomes. We plan on being a couple of hours from home, should this happen, so the possibility of someone we know ever finding out is slim.
Man, I'm not sure what lights me up more....the thought of this fantasy actually coming true or how hot she gets just talking about it!

[tankman101]

"Man, I'm not sure what lights me up more....the thought of this fantasy actually coming true or how hot she gets just talking about it!"

This is really what its all about. Something to enhance things between you and your wife.

Like I said, just because you go to a club, doesn't mean you need to do anything. A lot of people are soft swingers.

Anyway, talk it over with your wife, make sure you are BOTH ready & hot for this (sounds like you but make sure), then have some fun! Take it as fast or slow as you want just have a plan.