Can A Break Up Actually Be A Good Thing?
Case no. 2 – Julia:
Like Kevin, Julia was devastated. Her boyfriend left her in a very rude way: he sent her a text-message stating that it was over and that he had found somebody else. Needless to say, Julia suffered exceptionally. She had put all her hope into this relationship and planned on getting married. Her previous relationships had all been disastrous, from cheating to abusive boyfriends.
Unlike Kevin, she didn’t lock herself up in her flat. She partied for days, avoiding being alone. After one month of destructive behavior, she refused to talk to anyone about her experience, even not to her best friend she had known since high school.
Unable to be alone, she took drugs and alcohol to bridge over the times when nobody could go out with her.
After 4 months in agony, she met this interesting man who made her feel good. Suddenly her life was back on track again. She fell in love, and they quickly moved in together and lived comparably happy.
Julia was pleased… until the next break up hit her without mercy.
What is the difference between Kevin and Julia?
Was Kevin smarter than Julia? Of course not. Did Julia suffer more than Kevin? No, their pain was comparable.
The difference between them was the ability to identify their weak points and the willingness to make the necessary changes.
Kevin realized the inescapable necessity of taking the right path at the right moment. He was prepared to face the pain and invested time for his healing as opposed to letting himself go and avoid the pain.
Julia chose to jump into a new relationship right away rather than face her problems. She was caught in a vicious cycle.
Of course, Kevin had the luck to find the competent help and certainly, Julia had a bad childhood, but both had a choice.
The choice for a better life.
There are many Julias out there right now with similar cases. I hope they all will realize eventually that in order to change their lives, they have to take their break ups or divorces as opportunities and not as a burden.
Use your break up to look deep into your own abyss and face the monster inside.
If you can’t do it alone, get the help you need.
Featured author, Eddie Corbano is a Breakup-Coach and Relationship-Advisor who himself suffered from a devastating break up in 1998. Since then, he developed some new coaching programs, which focus on evolving inner strength and the power to set and reach any personal goal.
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