Hi, Dan and Jennifer. I’m just gonna jump right into it. My ex and I have broken up 3 times and now have an 8yo child. We have been apart for 4 years. In that time neither of us has gotten into anything serious with anyone else. I want her back and at some point she wants me back also. But Honestly. I’m keep messing my chances up. I’ve been trying to be unpredictable to someone who has known me for 15 years. But I can’t seem to let go the negative feelings when I’m around her. I want to be happy and confident around her instead of weak and pathetic. She is currently seeing someone. And told me that she will be going out for her birthday with this guy because he is more fun. Then she said on my Birthday we’ll go out. This alone really bothers me. I need to make this woman feel a burning desire to be with me. I need to stop making these mistakes. This is what’s missing and we both know it. I took the time to see if this is the woman I want. The answer is yes. I want to live the dream and not just watch it pass slowly by. My confidence has been shaken to the core because the rejection I feel when I’m around her. What can I do to change this negative feeling inside of me and start making her feel that burning desire to be with me? When I watch the Dan and Jennifer videos I see how you 2 connect. This is what I want for me and my ex. The spark, that connection. Anything you can tell me will be useful.