These tests can take many forms. For example, arrange a “trip,” say you’re going away for a couple days to visit your folks, or friends, and use that time to keep track of some of the things your partner does.

You don’t necessarily need to sit outside in the car with a pair of binoculars 24/7, just pay attention to key times when your partner would, if you were home, do certain things, like leave the house for work, come home, etc.

You’d be surprised how many cheaters embrace these rare, private opportunities to further their affairs and indulge in some extra-marital ‘relations’.

Subtler Ways of Testing Fidelity

There are also subtler ways of testing your partner’s fidelity and faithfulness. One of them’s called the ‘gossip’ test. It involves bringing up the topic of cheating using a fictional third party, such as one of your work colleagues or friends.

Mention, without hinting at your suspicion of them in the slightest, that your friend (or whoever you’ve chosen to use for this test) confided in you that they’re cheating on their partner. Most people are, to some degree or another, even if it’s just to maintain conversation, interested in a little gossip, especially if it involves a subject as juicy as infidelity.

But when cheaters hear the topic of cheating brought up, they tend to silently panic – a rush of nerves sweeps their consciousness. Have they been rumbled? Is this a test? Am I reacting like a non-cheater would to this kind of chat?

Keep a close watch on how YOUR partner reacts…it could provide a telling insight into their current state of mind, how they feel about cheating and whether or not, when you boil it right down, you can trust them to not cheat on you.

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