Comments on: 3 Ways to Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/ Love & Sex. Videos, Tips & Advice from Ask Dan & Jennifer Sun, 31 May 2009 18:06:15 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Long Distance Relationships http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-32261 Long Distance Relationships Sat, 26 Jan 2008 04:10:09 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-32261 I recently ended my long distance relationship of 1 year. My boyfriend was deployed for the second half of our relationship. Throughout his deployment he only communicated with me about once a month. I tried to be as understanding as possible and never complained about that. Even then, I would still send letters weekly (through the internet), and emails. He never wrote me one letter. Anyway, when he came back, and for the last half of the relationship he was pushing me away. What hurt the most is he never invited me to his Homecoming! I could believe it, but I still tried to stay positive. When we did see each other (1 week after he was back) things changed. For example, he never told me thank you (for standing by him while he was gone), I missed you, etc.... After we saw each other he did not call me for an entire week, which I talked to him about. He said he "could" work on calling more, but no promises were made on his part. A few days later he still did not call so this when I ended the relationship. When I talked to him about ending the relationship he said he sort of agreed. I feel I had to end it because my needs were going unmet and my boyfriend was only doing the bear minimum to keep me happy. I also knew I didnt want to be treated like a doormat. Anyway I was just wondering if you all think I gave up on my relationship too soon, or if this guy is a just being a jerk and ending it was the right choice? I recently ended my long distance relationship of 1 year. My boyfriend was deployed for the second half of our relationship. Throughout his deployment he only communicated with me about once a month. I tried to be as understanding as possible and never complained about that. Even then, I would still send letters weekly (through the internet), and emails. He never wrote me one letter.

Anyway, when he came back, and for the last half of the relationship he was pushing me away. What hurt the most is he never invited me to his Homecoming! I could believe it, but I still tried to stay positive. When we did see each other (1 week after he was back) things changed. For example, he never told me thank you (for standing by him while he was gone), I missed you, etc….

After we saw each other he did not call me for an entire week, which I talked to him about. He said he “could” work on calling more, but no promises were made on his part. A few days later he still did not call so this when I ended the relationship. When I talked to him about ending the relationship he said he sort of agreed. I feel I had to end it because my needs were going unmet and my boyfriend was only doing the bear minimum to keep me happy. I also knew I didnt want to be treated like a doormat.

Anyway I was just wondering if you all think I gave up on my relationship too soon, or if this guy is a just being a jerk and ending it was the right choice?

]]> By: ACAM http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-32231 ACAM Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:59:50 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-32231 I met a wonderful man while on a working trip and we're trying to work out something. The question is, as a woman, how do I play my part in the relationship without being a push over?? Men are generally not the greatest communicators so I end up feeling like I am the one more interested in it working than he does. How do I get some reassurance out of him without sounding clingy or desperate? Why is it hard for men to say how they feel??? I met a wonderful man while on a working trip and we’re trying to work out something. The question is, as a woman, how do I play my part in the relationship without being a push over?? Men are generally not the greatest communicators so I end up feeling like I am the one more interested in it working than he does. How do I get some reassurance out of him without sounding clingy or desperate? Why is it hard for men to say how they feel???

]]> By: Jeff Kee http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-416 Jeff Kee Fri, 09 Feb 2007 01:32:17 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-416 The lack of exclusivity is a tough line for a lot of people to break. I feel that staying faithful is an important aspect of it, but then maybe I'm just not North American enough? The lack of exclusivity is a tough line for a lot of people to break.

I feel that staying faithful is an important aspect of it, but then maybe I’m just not North American enough?

]]> By: madeline http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-332 madeline Fri, 02 Feb 2007 07:06:46 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-332 I am in a long distance relationship, and I don't think that we are "setting ourselves up to fail". We have an amazing relationship and tell each other everything. It is difficult at times, but distance should not hold you back. If it's right, it's right, no matter where you live. I am in a long distance relationship, and I don’t think that we are “setting ourselves up to fail”. We have an amazing relationship and tell each other everything. It is difficult at times, but distance should not hold you back. If it’s right, it’s right, no matter where you live.

]]> By: Dating Directory http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-299 Dating Directory Tue, 30 Jan 2007 14:31:40 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-299 That's great advice, the other half and I went through a long distance relationship whilst at university. The being 'completely honest' with each other part helped us get through some tough times! Feel free to link your site in our <a href="http://www.figurematch.com" rel="nofollow">Dating Directory</a>. I think the dating advice section would be suitable and your blog would be a great addition. Cheers That’s great advice, the other half and I went through a long distance relationship whilst at university. The being ‘completely honest’ with each other part helped us get through some tough times!

Feel free to link your site in our Dating Directory. I think the dating advice section would be suitable and your blog would be a great addition.

Cheers

]]> By: ccc http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-266 ccc Mon, 29 Jan 2007 08:29:21 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-266 too gud too gud

]]> By: jesseajohnson http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/comment-page-1/#comment-263 jesseajohnson Mon, 29 Jan 2007 08:26:39 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/3-ways-to-make-your-long-distance-relationship-work/#comment-263 please explain more. please explain more.

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