By: tash

tash — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 01:16:03 +0000

Wow. The story,”are you dating a psycho?” hit a little too close to home. At two points in my life, I was dating emotionally unstable men. The first one, I dealt with for almost two years because I didn’t know any better. This guy expected me to be with him every single day, and if I decided to be with my freinds(as most teenagers like to do) he would freak out and accuse me of being with another guy. “You just don’t have time for me!” he would cry. we always had to do things according to his comfort level; mine didnt count. When I decided to go away for college (to get away from him), he made a fit:”you’re doing that so you can sleep with other guys and forget about me!” So I didn’t go. When I was to spend the summer in NY, the same thing, so I gave that up too. In the end, I lost friends who never saw me, put off college and a couple of great vacations, and missed out on alot of the typical teen experiences because I was litterally being held hostage. When somebody gets mad at you for everything and makes you feel guilty for having a life outside of them, they are trying to control you and using their own issues to do so. In a real relationship, partners support each other in order to see the othe person happy, even if it isnt something that they want. It took me a long time to learn this. Some people are simply too selfish to handle this. The turning point came for me when he (forcfully)suggested that we get married. I was eighteen, ready to drink underage and go to the beach and live like every other teenage girl, and he was very adament and threatened to leave and”find someone else” if I didnt love him eneough to do it, so I chose to leave…and never look back, even after countless apologies and battered self esteem. when I ended
up in the same situation five years later, I knew better and nipped it in the bud. Now I tell any one who I see in the same boat to run as fast as they can. The longer you put up with this, the harder it is to leave. They are not going to change, ever.

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By: tash