Comments on: Arguments and Fights: Why Won’t You Listen to Me?

By: Pemo Theodore

Pemo Theodore — Sun, 16 Sep 2007 07:34:55 +0000

I don’t agree that it is normal to always blame others for difficulties and I think we should be tougher on ourselves. Its important to set up a ‘blame free zone’ in ourselves initially and then to agree it in a relationship. Blame is crippling and de-moralising and I have never seen it serve anyone. I am currently based in the UK and notice that it is very strong & prevalent in this culture. I have not seen anyone served through blame. It’s important to just ask the question in the midst of any problem: ‘What can I do here to make a difference?’ and then to listen & action the inner response. Once that inner conversation has happened then the outer conversation with a partner is going to be much more constructive. As individuals we are all responsible for our own behavior & problems firstly as a partner is for theirs. It is icing on the cake when we can lovingly support each other in a relationship once these boundaries are identified. It is also important not to dance around in a relationship that does not show initial potential at its foundation anyway.

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By: feelingflirty

feelingflirty — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 08:27:25 +0000

A relationship can often go stale but that doesn’t mean it has to be over. Draw a line on a piece of paper and on one side right the reasons you fell in love with this person in the first place and on the other write what appears to keep you from feeling the way you once did. Put the paper away for 24 hours and then re-read it and see if you feel the same, if so, make a time to discuss it and create a plan for making it better. If you get no response from your partner – you can’t fix it alone.

By: Angie

Angie — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 18:25:44 +0000

The whole fight or flight thing is a seriously instinctive process. I wonder how hard it is to surpress that urge when it comes right down to it. Looking back, I absolutely see how that the ForF instint is often what set me off when I was married and let’s just say I’m not one to run, …so fight was my reaction.