Comments on: Is It Wrong To Be Friends With My Boyfriend’s Ex-Girlfriend? (Video)

By: Gio

Gio — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 00:58:54 +0000

You cant look at every situation the same way. Personally, I am not on bad terms with any of my ex’s, because that is the way I am.
My reaction to my current partner talking with or becoming friends with one of these girls would, in all situations, make me feel uncomfortable.
Sometimes, people don’t want to be around ex’s for more reasons than just hating them. There are a couple of girls that it would just hurt to be around, because the pain of losing someone you love, for any reason, sometimes just doesn’t go away.
Also, I would be pretty upset if I wasn’t consulted about this before communication between the two started. It NOT just HER decision. This was a person that I used to/still care about a lot. It’s OUR decision.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 16:22:25 +0000

I am now married to a wonderful man and I had this exact thing happen to me. my husband had a horrible relationship with his ex but i wanted to know what she was like because im snoopy. I talked to her online a few times but it was weird she ended up going to a mutual friend and asking if what i said was true, nothing bad just that he quit smoking/drinking we had a house and a dog. she had asked me how we were doing so i told her her not believing he was like that went to a friend of ours and asked. when we found out it was too much for us to both handle and I stopped talking to her. the fact she cant accept that he is a good man and a loving husband bothers me to no end so I cut off communication. NOW on the other hand MY ex cheated on me with a girl who I got in contact with a few yrs after the fact to talk to her because he was not a good guy and she still needed to know things, they weren’t together anymore but there were things. NOW we very good friends and talk all the time through email due to the fact she moved to a different province. I do not think it is a good idea to get in contact with the person though they are Ex’s for a reason and it should remain that way. Most of my husbands ex’s have tried to ruin our relationship many times. some weren’t over him some didn’t want to see him happy. I stuck by his side and we got through it now we are happily married. my advise because i have gone through it is steer clear of the ex.

By: AV

AV — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 05:31:39 +0000

With all the people on this planet, why would you seek out a ex of your current partner. There is no reason to think the friendship of an ex is any more valuable than another person so why create the possibility of a difficult situation. Bottom line is we break up with people because we don’t want to be with them anymore and it isn’t unreasonable to expect your partner make her friends elsewhere.

By: Rich Wilson

Rich Wilson — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 05:01:10 +0000

I don’t think you are even close. When you have spent a long time together, ther’s always a good reason. Women more than men tend to render a judgement on the suitability of their men in the first few weeks of a relationship. I feel that for these that end then, your statements do apply. But, after a period of months or even years, Most of the time, I think that one partner wilfully sabotages their relationship, and the victim partner is left with an ultimate rejection, and hatred is an easy answer.

Please do not contact me in any way. I am giving you my address but I do not want any correspondence

Thank You

By: Justin

Justin — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 03:57:28 +0000

ok, so what about if your girlfriends still friends with all her exs, how do you handle that?

By: Wild Bill

Wild Bill — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 17:36:38 +0000

Dan and Jennifer I understand where you are coming from with this post I just personally do not feel this advice fits with the usual reality of a breakup.

If my wife tried to make friends with my ex we would more than likely be headed for divorce court. There is a reason I married my wife and not my ex. If my wife meet with my ex I can almost guarantee my ex would do everything possible to poison my marriage and try to break us up.

I believe exs are a sleeping pit bull that is best left alone.

I will admit this post did get me thinking and that is a good thing. Keep it up. I love the site.