“Wait, before we take another breath, before we’ve lived another moment of our lives, and now is fast becoming then. Wait, before you take your lips from mine, how quickly where we are is where we’ve been and give is given.” 

~ Alan & Marilyn Bergman

Remember That Falling In Love Feeling?

Do you remember what it felt like when you fell in love for the very first time with someone who loved you back?  Every word, every glance, and every touch filled the air between the two of you with such meaning.  

Little confessions and secrets shared made you feel naked and vulnerable long before any clothes came off!  There was no frame of reference for the experience of falling in love for the very first time!  It meant every moment together was infused with the raw energy of newness and loss of innocence.  It was intoxicating!

Innocence lost is never recovered.  We measure every subsequent relationship by the relationships that came before it.  You watch his or her behavior and choices as closely as you watch your own; looking for clues and hoping this time, it will be different.  Maybe this time it will last.  If you aren’t careful, the fear of repeating the past becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Heighten the Chemistry

In your current relationship, though, there is a way to heighten the chemistry between you; making this love, which has never been experienced or expressed before, full of meaning, purpose, and delight.  Begin by turning off the multi-tasking and teach yourself to be present in the present moment. 

Many things demand our attention, taking us out of the present moment.  There is the ever-lengthening “To Do” list.  There are deadlines at work, school, and at home.  There are relationship issues with any number of people in our lives. 

There are health issues tied to food, sleep, rest, and medications.  There is study that needs to happen, entertainment, and fun too.  There are so many demands on individuals and couples today that multi-tasking is as essential to living as anything we learned in school!

How do you slow down and be present with your romantic partner when there are so many demands on your time and attention?  By making the commitment to choose, on a regular basis, to stop thinking, turn your attention to him or her, and then listen and feel where he or she is coming from. 

Being Present….

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