Being Present

Study his face as he shares a story or concern.  Admire the self-conscious grin that crosses his face when he boasts.  Watch his eyes change focus as he considers what he is sharing and how his expression changes when he’s ready for your feedback. 

Get close to him and breathe in his scent, remembering what it was like when his scent was new to you.  Reach out and gently trace his face with your fingertips.  Without saying a word, admire him the way you did when you first met.  It will give your eyes a “come hither” look that will he will surely notice.

Get close to her when she is in the middle of a routine task like washing the dishes or reading.  Touch her somehow.  If she is at the sink, come up behind her and nuzzle her neck.  If she’s reading, rub her shoulders.  Give her a reason to stop for even a moment to let you nurture her. 

Smell her hair and complement the scent of her shampoo or perfume.  Run your fingers down her arm or back and appreciate the fact that this woman is yours and that she opens her body and soul to you.    

Building Intimacy

Any amount of being present can lead to sex, that is certain!  But not always.  Being present can become a way of building intimacy and checking in using few words.  Ceasing your own internal chatter and really taking in your partner whether he or she is sharing something or doing something or even sleeping is honoring. 

Things like building intimacy and honoring one another heightens the chemistry, the energy, between you.  It is a delicious way to attend to yourselves as a couple without requiring the “hard work of making a relationship work.”

Enhancing your relationship can be delicious, fun, and sexy!  You can become more appealing to each other as time passes.  Being present for no other reason than that you love and honor this person fuels the delicious, sexy fun of heightening the chemistry between you!

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