Being a realist, I know that they very well may not be together in the future; my mom and sister sometimes make remarks to her about this which upsets my daughter and doesn’t serve any purpose.

Interesting fact though. Just this year I attended the wedding of two couples who married several years after college who have been together since their high school years. Also just this year, my husband’s nephew and his wife, who have been married 16 years, had their first child (they’ re in their late 30s)….they too were high school sweethearts…together OVER 20 years through college too! Oh yeah, his parents, still married after 38 years, were also high school sweethearts.

I know other couples, relatives and friends of mine who seem to have solid relationships after decades together and have been together since high school.

It happens, so in my daughter’s case I just assume that he may be around for the long haul just as much as he may not be….no point in putting a negative spin on it like some do. I know the odds are against them, but as I mentioned; there are plenty who beat the odds.

Some people say things like, “they’ll never know who else may be out there.. how do they know they’re ‘the one’.?…why stick with the first person you go out with?…” That too is an unrealistic and unreasonable way of thinking.

Maybe they just lucked out the first time and don’t have to deal with the bad dates and horrible breakups that so many of us endure. I have one divorce behind me and a current 18 year happy marriage. I know what a bad relationship feels like. What I would have given to have met my current husband before I dated some (and married one) of the other guys. More relationships does not necessarily mean BETTER relationships for sure!

Back to the boy in my daughter’s life; he’s s nice kid, they treat each other well and we enjoy having him around. If it works out in the long run, more power to them.

We come from completely different backgrounds. I was raised republican he was raised democrate. My daddy was a church of christ preacher, his mom is luthern his day catholic. I grew up with both parents in the same house he had a father that never called and a step father that was always drunk. But, at the same time he was the Football/baseball star and I was the new girl who didn’t deserve him. It didn’t matter. When his mother tried to force him to pick between me and her it didn’t matter. Its me and him till the wheels come off. Not everyone can have that. Heck not everyone can have an open marrage and survive either. We are the exception that proves the rule. Most high school sweethearts who go away to college won’t survive. Those that get married straight out of high school will often end up divorced as soon as their kids are grown. Bear and I are intent on sticking this out and being together always because as my mother once said no one else could live with me but him. YOu couldn’t ask for a better man, a better father, provider, or lover. He is all things to me. He can fill any role. And that is what keeps us together. We do that for each other and go out of our way to make sure its never boring. But, hey with 6 kids nothing is ever boring.