Acting As If…

This means acting as if he carries the masculine energy in the relationship and as if she carries the feminine energy in the relationship.  You act as if what you want to be is who are until it becomes a real choice or even becomes the truth of who you are.

As individuals or as a couple, if you decide you would like to each hold the respective masculine and feminine energies, look for clues that you are doing a role reversal and then reverse that! 

Say you as a woman realize that you are the aggressor, the seducer, the risk taker, expecting your man to be the virtuous one between you, then put your attention on ways you can be receptive, mysterious, at ease with yourself and with him. 

If as a man you discover that you wait for her approval before you act, find something to take action on and do it.  Take action without waiting for her approval.  Then monitor your need for praise afterwards. 

There is a difference between soaking up her praise because it feels so good and desperately needing it to feel good about yourself.  You can practice desiring it without needing it until it becomes a reality.

It Isn’t an Easy Road

This may sound like a simple cure for a complex difficulty in relationships.  It isn’t simple.  It takes self-discipline and self-love to give up role reversal.  There are pay offs for role reversal in the first place.  Namely, loyalty to mothers and fathers. 

If your mother was your champion, your best friend when you were a boy and young man, releasing your attachment to her and finding your power within your own masculinity can seem like betrayal on a subconscious level where you do not have a lot of control. 

Choosing a woman who will take care of you the way she did can feel like “home.”  Asking more of yourself and more of your mate may not only stress that relationship but the one with your parents too. 

If your father was your champion, your best friend when you were a girl and young woman, releasing your attachment to him and finding your fulfillment within your own femininity can make you feel like you are hurting the only man who will ever really love you. 

It doesn’t make sense.  Why would he not want you to be all that you can be: successful, beautiful, and feminine?  Where the difficulty lies, isn’t on the rational level.  It is deep down trapped in conflicting feelings.

However, choosing to hang out in the energy that belongs to your sex can revitalize your relationship and your life.  No matter what kind of mama’s boy you have in your life, he longs to be respected and admired. 

No matter what kind of daddy’s girl you have in your life, she longs to be cherished and loved.  It doesn’t matter for how long you have been committed, consciously or subconsciously, to role reversal, women love to be cherished and men love to be respected. 

Learning to hang out in and embrace your same sex energy can jazz up the chemistry between you, making you feel loved and lovable in a whole new way!

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