How To Achieve Emotional And Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship
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To know and experience each other fully is the most effective way to keep the bonds of understanding, love and empathy alive and strong. This is the glue that keeps a relationship intact. Without it, it will eventually fall apart.
So what do I mean by emotional and/or sexual intimacy and how can one nurture such experiences?
Intimacy is not necessarily sex
Well, intimacy is often colloquially thought of as simply "having sex" by some. This is not what I mean here.
By intimacy I am referring to one’s ability to be open to one’s own inner feelings and then be able to share such experiences with one’s partner freely and without fear of any kind.
You see intimacy is about letting yourself be fully known to yourself and to your partner.
Unfortunately this is easier said than done for many individuals because most have been conditioned to suppress, hide, denigrate, or make unconscious much of one’s inner emotional life.
That is largely because the societal norms which continue to be perpetuated see feelings and emotions as dangerous, untrustworthy, illogical, painful, impulsive, etc.
Well, this is a sad state of affairs because emotions and feelings are what make you and me human beings.
What happens when we shut down
So by shutting down this part of one’s life experience one is essentially making one’s self less than a whole human being. That means that while in a relationship you are not fully present as your complete self.
Of course at some level your partner will eventually recognize this and feel like he/she is not fulfilled because he/she is not having a relationship with a whole human being.
It’s at times like this that individuals start feeling dissatisfied with their relationship and hence start looking elsewhere for happiness. No wonder so many relationships end for this reason.
The ability to nurture a bond of intimacy starts only when each individual starts to take personal responsibility for allowing their inner emotional life to emerge. First to themselves and then to their partner.
As I said earlier this self revelation can be a scary one for many because allowing this emotional life to emerge often means allowing unresolved emotional pain to come to the surface of one’s experience. This can make an individual feel inadequate, guilty, sad, depressed, anxious, angry, hurt, tired, etc.
The tendency might be to attempt to numb the emotional pain through drugs, alcohol, sex, work, and other distractions. Again this leads to individuals simply acting out a stale relationship with little depth and or awareness of self or other.
Sooner or later this will declare itself as unsatisfying and each partner will be on the look out for something else.
Nurturing intimacy
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About the author: To learn more about Nick Arrizza, visit www.TeleCoaching4u.com.
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