Here’s my situation: I do all the things here in the article. I do these things, and not in a way-too-much kind of way. The response I get is exactly the opposite.

She would rather I didn’t pay attention to her in this way, at all. She doesn’t think of herself as sexy, and feels put off if I even suggest it to her. I’m using really nice words here; belligerence and contentious are more appropriate descriptions of her response.

This totally f***ing sucks. If I wasn’t showing her that attention, everyone would be understanding of her dilemma. Now, the tables are turned, and yet everyone still sees it from her side.

Here I am, doing the right thing, and I get nothing but grief from it.

So, what is phase 2 of this plan?