Comments on: I’m Afraid to Tell You… http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/ Love & Sex. Videos, Tips & Advice from Ask Dan & Jennifer Sun, 31 May 2009 18:06:15 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: LadyKelien http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/comment-page-1/#comment-23844 LadyKelien Fri, 17 Aug 2007 04:28:48 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/#comment-23844 My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We beat the odds for most teenage marrages. I guess getting married straight out of highschool at 18 and 19 is still considered teenage marrage. He is my life. Ive given him 6 children. He has given me the world. I don't know if you have ever heard the song "It Works" by Alabama but that is my life. We have no secrets from each other. We just wish the world would go away and quit telling us how to live our lives. People are always saying I need a life separte from him. But, those are the same people who keep secrets and end up getting married for the 4th time and not having a single marrage last longer than 5 or 6 years. We have survived the test of time because he is my best friend and no matter what it is from telling him hes acting like a jerk to telling him I find the guy in the next checkout line over attractive there is nothing I can't say to him. There is nothing he can't say to me. If you don't want your spouce to worry your cheating always be where you say your going to be with who you say your going to be with and offer the info willingly don't make them ask for it. Call them if your going to be late. You know the common curtiseys that say hey your important enough to me that Im going to keep you informed so you won't worry. 16 years of married 18 years of being together. Im only 34. We still have a good 50 years or more to be togehter and you know what that idea doesn't scare me at all because I know what to expect. I can expect my best friend living and loving, failing and succeeding with me. That he will be there with me every step of the way and I will be there for him. And we will do it with complete honesty. We even know each others passwords to email accounts and neather of us ever use it we don't have to. He trusts me enough to give it to me and I trust him enough not to use it. And that is what keeps marrages going. Honesty breeds trust and trust breeds honesty. But, it always must start with honesty. My husband and I have been married for 16 years. We beat the odds for most teenage marrages. I guess getting married straight out of highschool at 18 and 19 is still considered teenage marrage. He is my life. Ive given him 6 children. He has given me the world. I don’t know if you have ever heard the song “It Works” by Alabama but that is my life. We have no secrets from each other. We just wish the world would go away and quit telling us how to live our lives. People are always saying I need a life separte from him. But, those are the same people who keep secrets and end up getting married for the 4th time and not having a single marrage last longer than 5 or 6 years. We have survived the test of time because he is my best friend and no matter what it is from telling him hes acting like a jerk to telling him I find the guy in the next checkout line over attractive there is nothing I can’t say to him. There is nothing he can’t say to me. If you don’t want your spouce to worry your cheating always be where you say your going to be with who you say your going to be with and offer the info willingly don’t make them ask for it. Call them if your going to be late. You know the common curtiseys that say hey your important enough to me that Im going to keep you informed so you won’t worry. 16 years of married 18 years of being together. Im only 34. We still have a good 50 years or more to be togehter and you know what that idea doesn’t scare me at all because I know what to expect. I can expect my best friend living and loving, failing and succeeding with me. That he will be there with me every step of the way and I will be there for him. And we will do it with complete honesty. We even know each others passwords to email accounts and neather of us ever use it we don’t have to. He trusts me enough to give it to me and I trust him enough not to use it. And that is what keeps marrages going. Honesty breeds trust and trust breeds honesty. But, it always must start with honesty.

]]> By: Mike http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/comment-page-1/#comment-18986 Mike Wed, 06 Jun 2007 22:30:53 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/#comment-18986 Wow, Dating guru thinks it is O.K. to cheat on your spouse. Well, at least it is her honest opinion. On the other hand, there is such a thing as an STD, and, possibly even worse- divorce lawyers. I do agree that people (especially women) should keep their past a secret, but stick with it once you've chosen that path (don't be talked into telling all later on). Wow, Dating guru thinks it is O.K. to cheat on your spouse. Well, at least it is her honest opinion. On the other hand, there is such a thing as an STD, and, possibly even worse- divorce lawyers.

I do agree that people (especially women) should keep their past a secret, but stick with it once you’ve chosen that path (don’t be talked into telling all later on).

]]> By: Dating Guru http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/love-relationships/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/comment-page-1/#comment-4701 Dating Guru Fri, 20 Apr 2007 19:53:39 +0000 http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/relationship-advice/i%e2%80%99m-afraid-to-tell-you/#comment-4701 I wouldn't say that it's very wise to share EVERYTHING with your partner. You should have your own private life, too, which includes private thoughts, some secret things that belong only to you, and even friendships and sexual relationships outside of marriage, if you wish. I wouldn’t say that it’s very wise to share EVERYTHING with your partner. You should have your own private life, too, which includes private thoughts, some secret things that belong only to you, and even friendships and sexual relationships outside of marriage, if you wish.

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