Long Distance Relationships – Can They Really Work?
Why insist you each be lonely and miserable during the times that you can’t be together. Go out and enjoy life, rather than sitting around waiting by the phone. That way when you are together, you can really have fun and enjoy each other without the worry and dread of when it’s going to end and you have to be apart again.
If you’re afraid of losing him to someone else, then you are letting fear and jealousy get in the way of a perfectly good relationship.
Are you ready for a really controversial statement?
"Complete honesty and trust in a relationship is more important than complete monogamy."
Trust has nothing to do with what someone is doing or who they’re with.
My definition of trust is "knowing that the person you’re with feels comfortable enough with you to tell you absolutely anything without fear of retribution."
Dan and I have an agreement that if we are ever interested in someone else, we’ll talk about it and if it seems like the right thing to do, then so be it. Isn’t it a little selfish to keep our partner from being happy, just to satisfy our own selfish desires?
"Unconditional, or true love means that you love someone regardless of what they say, do, or feel. Love is something we give, not something we take…"
This is probably not what you’re going to hear from other people, but I recommend not trying to hold on so tight and letting things develop naturally. Enjoy the time you do have together. Life flows much more easily when we stop trying to control other people and make them fit into out tight little boxes. And trust me; we all have our boxes of how we think reality ’should’ be.
In summary…
- Accept him for who he is, not who you want him to be.
- If you’re going to have a long distance relationship with him, then enjoy it for what it is, see each other when you can, and stop worrying about commitments and what he’s doing when you’re not around.
- When the time is right and you’re BOTH ready, you can make a more serious commitment.
- Worry less about what everyone else says that you should do and follow your heart.
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